How to Be the One Who Proves Everyone Wrong

How to Be the One Who Proves Everyone Wrong

My boss laughed when I told her.

“Just watch me,” I thought.

A year later I would prove her wrong. But it wasn’t long before this that I had completely given up.

Maybe it was because I had just let myself down so much that I couldn’t trust myself anymore.

I said I wanted to be a musician, but I never practiced. I said I wanted to be in great physical shape, but I never picked up the weights.

So many of my ambitions were like this. Mostly relegated to the cloudy realm of thought.

Now it was different. Now it was time to get my hands dirty.

I was going to prove to everyone that they were wrong. Mostly though, I was going to prove to myself that I could actually follow through.

You see, I always believed that I could defy the odds. When I would hear others making excuses about famous, successful people, labeling them as special or gifted, I secretly thought “I could do that too.”

I wasn’t going to get anywhere thinking about it anymore though.

Nope. It was time to really see what would happen if I gave it everything I’ve got.

A year later I quit my job and was doing what I loved full time.

Everyone around me thought I couldn’t follow my passion. That was for “special people.”

I proved them wrong. How? I decided to give myself one solid year of giving everything I had to make it work. And in this post I want to show you how so you can defy the odds too.

Maybe the people around you think you’re unreasonable, or crazy too. If you follow this through, a year from now they’ll just be jealous.

“The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.” —Unknown

I challenge you to ONE year, going ALL OUT

Your passion, your waking up excited deserves at least ONE stinking year of devoted action.

Now, I’m not talking about lukewarm energy, or half-assing it.

No, I’m talking about being freaking obsessed, making your only mission in life for one year to get paid to be you.

I’m talking about dropping everything and getting hungrier than you’ve ever been.

I’m talking about selling your TV, banning Facebook from your life and detoxing hardcore from any distractions that dare to steal your progress away from you.

If you do this and make sacrifices you’ve never made before, and you make working on your own terms a reality, it will be worth it.

This will be a permanent change that deeply affects the rest of your life forever.

The one question for you to defy the odds:

What are you willing to do to make quitting dead-end work forever a reality?

In other words, what are you willing to sacrifice, and are you willing to give this one stinking year of your life?

Share your answer the comments below.

The person with the most compelling answer, I’m going to give a free membership to the 365 Days to Freedom program, which opens tomorrow at 10am Pacific.


P.S. Jennifer was willing to give one year.

This is what happened for her.


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Ant Carter

Inspiring read Jonathan .. As usual. I like receiving your emails. I decided once my daughter was born 14 months ago that I didn’t want to be the daddy who is always at work. I have spent the last 14 months making numerous mistakes, smiling, and learning from them. I managed to negotiate a day off work a week to progress my business in return for extended hours the other 4 days a week – and have poured my heart and soul into creating technical training products for people who want to begin to earn their own freedom and start… Read more »


I am ready to give up 2 hours every evening and what actually I mean is 2 hours after coming from my Day Job, I will NOT 1. I will NOT make myself available to my family. I will say hello, meet for 10 minutes and then disappear into my work room all alone. 2. I will NOT allow any distractions like relatives or family artificial emergencies. 3. I will NOT waste time TRYING INSTEAD I WILL… 1. I will seriously read or listen recommended instructions 2. I will design my plan with paper and pen of what I will… Read more »


Hey Jonathan!

Nice reminder this one. Thanks for sharing your story also. I’m already into this. I know many people have thought I’m weird or crazy, or just being a dreamer! Hell yeah! I’m a dreamer, and not a sleeper-walker sobbing around in societies lower norms.

I gave up my last regular job many years ago. I’m never going back. I’ll rather die trying while building my own reality and dreams than fall back to fake safetyness and “normal”.

Amen to that.



My email is so backed up, but for some reason I clicked on this email and read it. This is me. For most of a decade I’ve started and let go of many business projects. I set out with great intentions and then get in my own way. Even when I would find success in a business, I would discover it wasn’t for me. Sometimes it was me trying to do what others expected me to do. I’m talented with photography, so everyone said to start a photography business. I had high paying clients but hated every second of photography… Read more »


Hi Jonathan!

You know what? I’ll do it in six month! (And don’t tell me that I can’t do that. ;) )

I’m about to start to travel a lot from now on; I’ll work on builing a new online service while I’m on the go (that’s the challenge); I want to change my habits, and what better way could there be to do this while not being at home?

Thanks for your site,
thanks for your support



It is the greatest self-betrayal of all of us to keep being a sheep in order to feel “safe”. It leaks all the energy and all that remains is the black veil of depression. If I used only half of the energy I need to keep this outdated life from falling apart, and funneled it into building my own dreams, I would crash the gate that are the thoughts telling me my dreams are impossible, and the love beyond it would fuel my power infinitely. What I am ready to sacrifice is the comfort of depression, my terrors and fears… Read more »

Tommie Slade
Tommie Slade

Jonathan, I am one who as recently as of Oct decided where I was, isn’t where I suppose to be. I was practicing as a home health physical therapist assistant growing dissatisfied over all the insurance beauracracy and inability to treat those that need it due to insurance restrictions. So after a year of being practically disabled, unable to work due to a car accident, took what settlement money I was given, left NC and arrived in NJ ready to begin anew with more opportunities. I had everything straight before I left NC. Housing, a job,,a lined up, except I… Read more »


Hey Jonathan

What am I willing to sacrifice? To let go off that which blocks the vision

Tv, drugs,gambling, parties when I’m flowing and doing what I love none of that stuff even matters. So why can I not stay consistent. Why do I snatch defeat from the jaws of victory?

That’s what I’m giving up. The control of the fear. The shame and the guilt. Giving up the box. So everyday I’m out of it is a success. And to see what happens from there.



These days I keep going around asking myself and everyone else: Is it possible? Is it really possible? I was recently told at my job, by our CEO, that I won’t be making any progress in that company, ever. I already spend almost 15 years there and my brain is exploding with boredom at the duties I had – and now they tell me I have nothing to look forward to? I am ambitious, yes, and I need change. So I could look up for another job, that would be a safe option for me. But there aren’t many jobs… Read more »


Jonathan, Just about 9 years ago I was treated to a conference to learn about making a living online, marketing and promotion and all that. Along the way I learned how to build an email list as well as ideas on product creation, etc. However, I never truly found my “calling” or passion to serve others uniquely with a business model that I would love and want to continue doing. By 2009, I was laid off due to the work I had been doing over 23 years when the economy bottomed out. I gave up on that line of work… Read more »

Brendan Schmidt
Brendan Schmidt

Funny this came up today because just last night I was having a deep and intimate convo with a close friend about really going for it for 1 full year. I was talking about how I want to structure my life to best support that endeavor and what gives me the best shot to win. I’m in the process of selling my stuff and am moving to a new place, I’m cutting my expenses down as low as humanly possible and am going without a vehicle and possibly phone for the foreseeable future. I realized that I want to base… Read more »


Hey Jonathan –
This couldn’t be more timely for me.

After spending 5 years living life on my own terms, starting and running my own business and being the master of my own destiny, I had a brain bleed one morning that wiped all of that out. A year and a half on, I’m ready to start again. It feels more difficult this time around and the learning curve seems huge but totally worth it. Living an ordinary life simple isn’t an option.
Thanks –

Dhaval Gajera

Hey Jonathan, I am going to give away my laziness and procrastination and work hard for 1 year and after that till I quit my job.also, I’ll be saying goodbye to my habitual spending and weekend s.


I wanna be free. Free to work for myself. Free to do what I love. Free to be who I am and wherever I want to be. The past years I only worked in environments of poisoning work ethics telling me I couldn’t do these and that blabla…you know what? FUCK IT. FUCK’EM. I can. I just need a chance. I already quit my job I already left my country to travel but still need to rely on ‘typical’ jobs to make money. I am willing to sacrifice EVERYTHING for the result of being Paid to exist. I just need… Read more »


When I was younger I knew my mark on the world would be through writing stories that would inspire and create change. I loved reading and I loved writing. I still do. Recently, I’ve been working on being more authentic and transparent. Most my life I’ve worked really hard at getting people to like me. It’s exhausting. I’m tired. It’s time to quit. I want to get to a point where I’m perfectly okay with being myself and not caring if people agree with me or not. I want to stop talking about being a writer and become a writer… Read more »


“What are you willing to do to make quitting dead-end work forever a reality? In other words, what are you willing to sacrifice, and are you willing to give this one stinking year of your life?” In short? Anything. This year I “woke up”. All of the self-education in previous years culminated in big realisations. We humans are moving through our lives completely unconscious. Without awareness, we are subject to the forces of others – our environment, marketers, social media, trends, etc. to direct our live. We react to the things that happen to us – we don’t create the… Read more »


It’s pretty crazy to think what can happen if you do go all out for a whole year.

Honestly, that’s similar to obtaining 10 000 hours to master anything.
Epic post.


I quit the “9-5” just over 4 years ago and have been living full time on the road since. I have been working on building my own brand, Exploring Elements, and trying to make ends meet through freelance journalism jobs. I’m just now starting to make ends meet with the side jobs, but haven’t found a way to not be at the mercy of random magazine editors and the like when it comes to my income. I strive to find a work/life balance that will allow me to do the adventure sports and get the travel experiences that fuel my… Read more »

J.D. Meier

About a decade back, I was ready to quit. I told my accountant I was going to quit. He said, well, aside from the fact that you don’t have enough money to retire, what will you do with your time? It caught me off guard. I had imagined chillaxing on a hammock being fed grapes. But he knew me better than that. He said I’m a go-getter and would get bored. He asked me if any of my friends were retired. I said, “No.” He asked me if I liked golf. He said because if I did, at least I… Read more »


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I WANT to do this, but my problem is with actually following through. I’ll start off strong but eventually end up falling back into my comfort zone. Like, I have a moment of clarity, and decide “yeah, let’s do this” but slowly the fog rolls back in and I’m on comfort zone autopilot again.


Nice inspiring article about commitment to the cause. The game face, the desire, the primal thirst. Success in making the break is a different contest, but I’m a quick study. Some days it feels like it’s taken way too many years to have gotten here. It’s like a mirage I can almost see. Somedays, I feel I have wings of Mercury upon my feet and I’m unstoppable.
Thanks, first time post, will definitely be back !


I have realized after reading the article that telling somebody about your goal (especially your former boss) gives you no choice but to succeed! :P

Julie @ HappinessSavouredHot

You are so right. With commitment and accountability, I have achieved things I never thought I would (such as running a half-marathon despite asthma, and earning money writing freelance). What stops us is a fear of the unknown, bad habits, and not wanting to get out of our comfort zone. I believe that mindfulness is the way to overcome all those, which is why I will make 2016 my mindfulness year!


A real big challenge for anyone who takes it up…no guts, no glory…I promised myself many changes for this year and your model has clinched it! Will write the details out ASAP. Two thumbs up!!!


Fall in love, stay in love, build a lasting friendship, learn everything about each other, get married, maintain a spotless rental history (tarnish your credit just a tad), and dodge all those suggestions to “have a baby” or “buy a house” and feel so great that we DID. We stuck to our guns – we stuck TOGETHER. And we did it all on our own terms. >> Fast forward: Union job (with FULL benefits), big house, pretty yellow dog, healthy, happy, smart, beautiful children… I guess the only piece of the American Dream we missed was the Lexus/BMW/Mercedes… And then… Read more »


I LOVE this post! When DH and I announced to everyone we knew that he was going to quit his computer programmer job and we were going to move to the country and live off our investments, you can imagine the negative reaction we received, mostly from family members.

But here we are, two yrs. later, going strong.

You’re right, Jonathon – it’s all about taking “massive and immediate action.”

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