With everything we do, we look for permission. We’re looking for something to allow or tell us it’s “okay” to be, do, or have what we want.
You know that you can’t find that permission outside of yourself. You have to be the one that gives you permission.
And what you secretly really want is to say Yes to yourself.
Yes, I can spend time on my art.
Yes, I can have the relationship that I want.
Yes, I can make as much money as I want.
Yes, I can be as bold and adventurous as I want.
Yes, I can choose to spend my time on the things that make me come alive.
But often, we don’t give ourselves that permission. We come up with reasons why we can’t have it; not yet, anyway. We trick ourselves into thinking that someday we’ll qualify. If we just do this and that prerequisite, we’ll meet the requirements to give ourselves permission. Then we can earn the yes.
And how often does that happen? When we setup the prerequisites, how often do we reach them and then give ourselves permission?
I’m guessing for you, probably not much.
That’s because the stepping stones we’ve created are really an unnecessary crutch. We think some part of us is broken and in order to get that permission, we need to fix something first.
I’m here to tell you that that’s bullshit.
Complete, unfiltered, genuine bullshit.
The stepping stones lead only to more stepping stones. You never actually meet the requirements. And there’s a really good reason for that:
You don’t need them.
If you’re always thinking you need to do something to embrace your power — because that’s what permission really is — then it will always elude you.
You don’t need to do anything. Your power is available to you right now. All you have to do is say yes to it.
That’s the first Yes, and the most important one.
It’s the first step to writing your own permission slip. It’s also the first step to seeing through the need for permission. Because once you realize that you can say yes without a reason, you realize that you don’t really need permission at all.
What have you been wanting to say yes to? Will you say yes today?
photo courtesy of Nick