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I have no shortage of ability to dream big. When I think about what I want I imagine working from home, managing my own time, having the freedom to do what I want when I want. I would love to travel the world, learn how to tango, become a martial arts master, produce an album, and write a best selling book.
Thinking big has always been easy for me, I’m sure you probably don’t have an imagine deficit either. But if you’re like me, the action part probably hasn’t always been as easy.
Unfortunately, contrary to what some Law of Attraction cultists would have you believe, thinking about what you want all the time doesn’t accomplish much. I used to smoke pot every day and think about writing music and starting a prolific band. 5 years later, I can still barely play the guitar. Which leads me to a little story I’d like to share with you…
An irreverent tale
A couple of years ago, I was at the local bar across the street from my old workplace. Anyone who knew me or worked there could attest that I was a little more than a regular there. At the time I drank around nearly every week day and smoked pot daily. This was a few months before my catalyst for change. Anyway, I was sitting at the bar and happened to start talking to a guy I had never seen there before. One of my favorite bands was playing on the stereo and I made a comment about how much I liked them. It turned out he liked them too, so we got to talking about music.
This guy (can’t remember his name) let me know he was a record producer. I told him that I was a musician, but hadn’t really recorded any songs yet. I don’t remember word for word, but I’ll never forget what he said to me: “You look like a thinker. Am I right? (I confirmed his hunch) I have some advice for you. What do you do when you take a shit? (I told him, I never really thought about it) Exactly. You just shit. That’s what you need to do with your music.”
While my new friend didn’t exactly deliver his wisdom in the most elegant way, it was so compelling that I remembered it several years later.
The reason I wanted to share this story with you is because I think there’s a slight flaw in the way most people attack goals. They think big, they want to lose 50 pounds, buy a new house, pay off $30,000 of debt or run a marathon. These are all great aspirations, the only problem is thinking this big when taking action tends to paralyze most people. Running a marathon or buying a house is a daunting task. Especially if you’ve haven’t even run 3 miles or even purchased a car before. I’d like to suggest a different approach…
Think Micro, Act Macro (but still think macro)
Most people say, think big, act small. Think about your project and break it up into smaller, digestible chunks. If you want to run a marathon, it might mean making a training plan, setting a goal to run 1 mile a day and gradually increasing the distance you run monthly or weekly. The part where most people go wrong is when they break up their goal into smaller chunks, they’re still focused on the daunting completion of their larger goal. This usually gets people frustrated because they’re not performing as well as they think they can, or their goal is so far off in the future, it seems they’ll never make it.
Instead, I find it much easier to think micro and act macro. I think about the smaller goal that I need to achieve, but act big. If I want to write an article, I set the goal of writing an outline, or the first paragraph. I think small so I don’t let myself get paralyzed by the intimidation of the final product. Finishing the first paragraph is usually easy though and my motivation tends to snowball afterward. It’s easier for me to think “I could write one more paragraph” (thinking bigger) than it is for me to think “I need to finish this 4 page article.”
Similarly, when I’m lifting weights it’s easier for me to commit to doing a set of reps and after it’s completed, push myself to do one more. If I were to try to pump myself up to go to total muscle failure in the beginning, it might seem too daunting and I could get discouraged from even trying to start. Instead, I think micro, but act macro.
While thinking small and acting big, it’s important to remember that thinking big is still important. If I’m thinking small about my health and just focusing on working out everyday, I might lose sight of my total health. It’s important to remember the other aspects of health that are important as well, such as; spiritual renewal (meditation, reflection), mental health (reading, learning), eating right, and building relationships (social health). It’s important to remember the big picture, but to think small and act big when determining the actions you’ll take to reinforce your aspirations.
Thinking big also helps you to maintain a greater perspective on what’s really important. Imagine you’re writing a song and all you focus on is the different aspects of each instrument. You focus on the sound of the drums, the guitar riffs, the base line and the vocals. You diligently work to think small and act big. You think about how each instrument sounds and how they interact and blend together. You focus on the transitions of the song, the verse and the chorus and the fills.
Getting too obsessed with this can lead you to neglect the big picture though. Imagine you focus on all of these smaller aspects (thinking micro) of the song but you neglect to think about the meaning and the emotional impact it will have (thinking macro). You’re likely to end up with a great sounding song, that has very little meaning or impact.
So think small, act big, but still remember to think big.
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