Why Being Honest With Yourself is Keeping You From Getting What You Want

When it comes to being honest with yourself, sometimes it gets in the way of you expressing who you really are. That’s because the truth about your situation is NOT the truth about who you are.

If your current situation is not what you want, then being honest about it isn’t going to be very useful to you. Because being honest about it keeps you repeating the same story in your head, and in turn, keeps you experiencing the same situation and the same feelings surrounding it.

(Of course, if things are exactly the way you want them to be right now, you can stop reading this article.)

The trouble is we’re told over and over that we need to accept the truth about ourselves and our reality. And most of the time, we’re not looking at the core truth, but the circumstantial truth. This is a big difference.

Becoming aware of the fact that what you’re experiencing is not what you want is useful. Because without that awareness, you wouldn’t know that it’s something you want to change. Telling the truth about it over and over, however, isn’t very useful. It keeps you on a merry-go-round of conditioning yourself to believe that is just the way things are.

Well, the truth is, that’s the way things are because that’s what you created. Things are not the way they are because it’s just the truth, or at a fixed state because that is the way they should be.

They are only that way because you have been repeating that story. You can change your story at any time.

So, in order to tell a different story (and change your experience), you have to stop placing so much importance on telling the truth (about your situation).

The trick is, you have to tell a different story, even though that’s not what you’re currently experiencing. And the key to that is realizing that your current story is something that you can rewrite. It’s not written in permanent marker and sealed in a security envelope with super glue. Although you may think that because you’ve been confusing the truth about who you are with the truth about your circumstances.

You can deliberately choose something different now.

The Truth is, Your Telling the Truth Is not True

It’s not true because it’s just what you decided. The real truth about you is that you can create whatever you want. You can have the perfect path because you’re the one that decides it.

All you have to do is start using your creative power to move in the direction of what you most want your life to look like, by exercising the power of your imagination. Looking at your current situation won’t help; it will only reinforce what you’re already experiencing. You will have to imagine a new reality. Remember, this isn’t lying or being in denial, this is just deciding to create something different. And chances are, if you’re creating what you want deliberately, you will be expressing the real truth about you, that is much more genuine than your ever-changing circumstances.

I recommend doing this for at least 15 minutes every day when you wake up. Deliberately decide what you want your experience to be like, and then start thinking about why you want it to be that way. Forget the how. The how comes after you decide that it’s going to happen.

The how is not important. If you get too caught up on the how, when, or what, you will go back to looking at the past or your current situation and how it’s not possible based on what you already know.

You don’t need to know how it will happen. You just need to know why you want it, and decide that is what you want.

Once you decide what you do want, that’s when the resources will come. Whenever you take a step toward deliberate creation, the universe will start conspiring to make it so. You don’t have to worry about the how.

When you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Does your conscious brain need to worry about how you will speak, move, or hear? Of course not. That would be so difficult to manage consciously that it would never work. The same is true for deciding what you want to create in your life. If you had to figure out all the details of how things would happen, it would never be accomplished. The details are for the universe to figure out.

All you need to decide is that you’re going to stop telling the truth about the way things currently are, and decide what you want instead.

The truth is more negotiable than you think.

photo courtesy of kxlly

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