A Light in the Dark; The Story of My Overdose

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For a long time, I debated as to whether or not I should write about my path to personal growth. After much reflection, I decided that if there’s at least one person that can be inspired or learn something from my story, it’s worth sharing. This is a story about how one day changed my life; the day of my overdose.

A Curious Boy

Since I was a young boy, I’ve always had a desire to figure out how things worked, taking them apart and putting them back together. Although the putting it back together part didn’t always work so well. My curiosity for how things work led to me explore how my inner world operated. I questioned the religion I was born with; I questioned the government; I questioned life; I questioned society, education, love, humanity, purpose, and beliefs. You name it, I questioned it.

My interest led me to Eastern philosophy and I began to question my beliefs about reality and how they affected my life. The first book that led me to taking an active role in responsibility for my life was The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I first picked up his book in November 2006. I finished it a few days later.

Reading the Four Agreements changed my perspective on life completely. The Four Agreements essentially says that your life is determined by the beliefs or agreements that you have. You agree that things are a certain way and because you put your faith in them, it becomes true for you. I made a promise to keep these agreements with myself. I wasn’t always successful, but I kept the promise to do my best.

On The Edge

Despite my best intentions to improve my life, I had a highly addictive personality. I would often drink 5-6 times a week and smoke a pack of cigarettes a day. I smoked pot almost daily, as well. For me, having fun and using were synonymous. If there was no alcohol, pot or some other drug, our sole mission was to find some. While this definitely wasn’t harmless, it was beginning of something much worse.

On Halloween night of 2006, a friend at the bar in the bathroom offered me a line of coke. I felt elusive; I could think faster, it boosted my creativity. It felt like nothing I had ever felt before. It felt like heaven. Coke liked me and I definitely liked coke.

Despite how it made me feel that night, I knew the dangers of the drug. Pot, beer, and cigarettes were fine, I thought. But coke? That’s not something I ever want to get involved with. I stood true to myself and didn’t touch it, that was until I moved into a new neighborhood.

4 Liquor Stores in a 2 Block Radius

It wasn’t exactly skid row, but it was definitely wasn’t the nicest neighborhood I’ve lived in. Anytime there are 4 liquor stores within a 2 block radius, chances are it’s not exactly gentrified. One of my roommates was an English major and the other a Vietnamese exchange student who would often warn me about seeing “suspicious behavior” around the neighborhood. I don’t think he knew the full extent of things.

The state of the neighborhood never really bothered me. I saw it as temporary until I could move in with my girlfriend (who is now my wife) in a better neighborhood.

My best friend at the time and I ended up going to my neighbor’s apartment to hang out often (my apartment was not the most ideal place; my roommate stayed in the living room). Apparently, my best friend and my neighbor went way back. I immediately thought his roommate was shady, but my friend assured me he was alright.

Just This Once

The first time I went over to his apartment, his roommate offered me a line. I thought, What the hell, one line couldn’t hurt. A few days later, I bought two grams from him. Being the business man that I am, I figured if I’m going to buy it, I don’t want to waste my money, right? I’ll do half a gram and have him sell the other one and a half. I would make my money back and that would be the end of it. Naively, I trusted him. That was my first mistake.

The next day, I went over to see if he had sold the coke and had my money. He told me that they had stayed up all night doing the coke and would pay me back soon. This guy was a professional hustler and I got beat. It was taking him forever to pay me back and I was getting restless, but since I was his neighbor, he couldn’t avoid me. I knew that he was always broke, but he somehow always had drugs. I told him instead of paying me back in cash, he could hook me up with a line here or half a gram there. If he’s not going to pay me, I thought, I might as well get something. That was my second mistake.

Basically, him paying me back in coke over a period of a week or two made me end up wanting more when he couldn’t come through. I cut out the middle man and started going directly to his dealer. Coke was fun at first, but after a few weeks, the come down was unpleasant. Not to mention, sitting in paranoia half the night, wondering if my roommates could hear me snorting coke. The enjoyment had worn off. It was now an addiction.

Attempting to Start Over

In the midst of all this, my girlfriend and I were moving into a new apartment in a better neighborhood. She had no idea I had even done coke and I made a promise to myself that now that we were moving in together, my affair with cocaine was over. The day my girlfriend moved in, I told her that I wasn’t feeling well, in an attempt to explain my strange behavior (I was really high). She was naive – she had very little experience with drugs – and assumed “my sickness” would pass in a day or two. After she went to bed, I spent most of the night in the bathroom snorting coke into my now obliterated nose or outside smoking. I spent every minute sniffing, not wanting to waste any of the intoxicating drug. My paranoia was getting worse; I became increasingly on edge.

It was somewhere around 3am when my paranoia reached its peak. I couldn’t handle wondering if my girlfriend or the neighbors could hear me anymore. I had bought two grams earlier that day and had about one and a half left. I decided I was going to swallow it. That was my final mistake.

I swallowed everything I had left; I was pretty much out of my mind at this point. I felt a strange mix of paranoia and euphoria. It was as if there was a master control switch to the universe, and it had just been turned from three to two hundred and ten. Sounds I never would have noticed seemed like they were having a live concert inside my head. Endorphins rushed like lightning through my bloodstream. My heart was racing, my body was shaking and I was having heart palpitations. The intensity had become too much. I decided I was going to go upstairs to our loft to lay down and try to relax. The last thing I remember was telling my girlfriend that I loved her.

Disoriented

I didn’t know whether I had been sleeping or had gone unconscious. When I woke up, my girlfriend was on the phone with the paramedics. I was trying to make sense of everything, but every logical faculty within me had been shut down. An ambulance was pulling up to our house and she was directing me to go downstairs. I had a seizure due to overdose. My girlfriend had no idea what happened.

I was rushed to the hospital, hooked up to IVs and given two shots of Ativan, a sedative that is common in the treatment of anxiety and acute seizures. My heart rate was well over 200 and my blood pressure was in the 180’s before I received the medication. My blood pressure finally stabilized after the medication, but my heart rate would not go down. The doctor told my girlfriend it was probably due to anxiety and the emotional stress of what happened and advised her to leave until I calmed down. It was very obvious that I felt like I had completely betrayed my girlfriend; I couldn’t stop thinking about her or what I had done. I was kept in the hospital for 12 hours before my girlfriend picked me up to take me home.

When I got home, the Ativan was still heavily in my system. According to my now-wife, I slept for a few hours, woke up and used the bathroom, where I peed out some of the coke, which was excruciatingly painful. Later that afternoon, my sister arrived from Santa Barbara to give my wife some much needed moral support. My wife was 19 at the time and had just moved out for the first time in her life. Needless to say, she was traumatized. I don’t know how she handled the situation as well as she did.

New Beginning

The next morning I sat down with my girlfriend and sister to discuss what I was going to do to get help. Without them, I don’t know what I would have done. They had a list for me of all the things I needed to do, otherwise my girlfriend couldn’t be with me anymore.

  • Break ties with all of my old friends.
  • Change my phone number.
  • No alcohol, no smoking, nothing.
  • Talk to my family and admit my mistakes (as well as with my wife’s dad).
  • Go to Narcotics Anonymous (NA) meetings.

Within days, I did all of these things diligently. Eventually I stopped going to NA meetings, because I didn’t feel they were helping me. While some people really need the help of meetings, I felt they perpetuated my problem. Calling myself an addict just seemed to reinforce my identity with being an addict. I wanted to move past that and identify with something else. I wanted to identify with sobriety. The hardest part of this was when someone asked me “What are you doing to get help?” and my answer wasn’t very concrete. I couldn’t show them a slip my sponsor signed off every week or that I was in a rehab program. “I’m working on it within myself,” was my response.

A few things helped me overcome – my therapist prefers the word “integrate” – my overdose and addiction. I began taking my personal development seriously. I quit drinking and smoking pot immediately after my overdose. I broke all ties with my old friends, including my best friend. This was one of the hardest things for me, but I knew that if I wanted to change, I had to change the people I affiliated with. I also didn’t touch alcohol for a year. I quit smoking cigarettes a few weeks later, after being a smoker for 5 years. I began walking to work everyday, four and a half miles each way. I started journaling and meditating. I began reading Steve Pavlina’s personal development blog. A few weeks later, I had read every article on his site (over 700 articles). I was committed.

Anniversary

May 27th was the anniversary of my overdose and the day that changed my life. I still struggle with how to integrate this experience with my life now, it’s hard to think about how careless I was. Somehow I feel sharing this experience with others will help me though, and hopefully help someone else. I felt a lot of guilt within me and dealt with feelings of betrayal from my wife. I still don’t know how she had the courage to love me through everything, through my deception and dishonesty. She is an amazing woman.

I’ve learned that when something knocks you down in life, you have two choices. You can either lay there and wonder why bad things happen to you, or you can get back up on your feet and make the choice to learn from your mistakes. In my case, I didn’t have the option of letting my pride get in the way. I knew that I had made the biggest mistake of my life. If I didn’t change then, I’m not sure if I would have ever had the opportunity again. I couldn’t take that risk.

I made the choice to learn from my experience and take control of my life. If my life was going to turn around, it was going to be up to me. I don’t know where I got the courage to face my mistakes and move forward the way I did. I think there was an angel watching over me that day. I know there was a chance I could have not made it out of that seizure, but I did. It’s funny, I’ve always told my wife she’s my angel since we first started dating. I think she was my angel that day.

A Light in the Dark

I always wonder if I could go back and change it, would I want it to happen again? I’m really not so sure. Sometimes it takes the most difficult experiences to smooth out the rough edges in your life. In my case, it wasn’t just the edges, but the very core of my being.

I wanted to share my story with you, to let you know no matter what situation you’re in right now, you have a choice. You can always choose a new path. Your path might be littered with obstacles, but it’s those challenges that define your character. Those challenges are opportunities in disguise. They are there to test your strength and your faith. It’s in those moments that we see our light truly shine. We only need to remember, that it’s through the darkness, we can see the light.

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apricot. June 19, 2008 at 11:32 am

darling, you are my hero. I am so proud of you.

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Scott June 19, 2008 at 11:39 am

I’m truly moved by this post. Words can’t convey my reaction- it’s so honest that it will surely inspire all those that read it.

I admire you greatly for travelling through the negative times and it’s a tribute to your inner courage and strength that you have been able to get on the road to recovery.

I’m sure it can’t have been easy but you seem to have learned so much from it.

Thank you for feeling able to share your experience. I hope many others get the chance to read this.

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4mind4life.com June 19, 2008 at 12:18 pm

Hey Johnathan, great post! Though I’ve never done drugs or have been a heavy drinker… I too have hit (miles below) rock bottom w/ my ADHD, anxiety, and depression. Definitely a very tough experience to come out of… While I had the experience, I thought to myself “nobody has EVER gone through as much pain is me.” (Now I believe that is untrue…)

I have experienced many different states of consciousness because of “my rock-bottom experience” and it appears to me that you have too. The rapid thoughts, beta brainwave state, adrenaline-filled, dopamine packed, highly painful at the same time can be very, very tough to get past.

I am very glad you were able to share your experience and recover. Awesome job with your site and great article! As we look back on experiences like this, I think deep down, we are grateful to have had the experience: even though WHILE we have it, it may feel painful. Looking back, it may have guided your life to a more positive place and made you stronger because of it.

Once again, AWESOME.

By the way: I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR SITE RE-DESIGN!! And the URL change was cool too!

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4mind4life.com June 19, 2008 at 12:19 pm

Oh yeah, I just stumbled this post too!

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Michael Martine June 19, 2008 at 4:51 pm

Very powerful personal story. Thanks for being brave enough to share it. That was also a moment of personal development. :)

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Karen Lynch-Live the Power June 19, 2008 at 5:21 pm

Whew, Jonathan,
I’m grateful that you shared your story, I do think it takes courage to share our darkest experiences.
I’m glad that you overcame the addictions. Life is truly awesome when you focus on the great things in your life and it seems that you left the bad things and reached for the good! Be joyful. Be happy!

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Suburban Oblivion June 19, 2008 at 5:35 pm

Wow..what a powerful story! Congrats on your recovery, and your continued journey of self-discovery.

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Evelyn Lim June 19, 2008 at 6:04 pm

I’m so glad that you decided to share your story. It takes a lot of courage to tell the whole world that you have made a mistake.

You’ve made a wonderful decision to overcome your addictions and to choose the best way forward. I’m impressed to learn that your commitment was so strong that you read all 700 articles that Steve wrote. I can’t even profess to that!

May you achieve success in your future endeavors. You have my support!

Evelyn

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Monica June 19, 2008 at 7:25 pm

Hi!
I want to thank you for sharing your story! Your story was absolutely the most perfect timing for me and I know it was not an accident. You don`t come across posts like this everyday after all!

I`ve been having a rough week and have been conflicted about how much I want to share about my personal story that lead me to back to a healthy mind and life.Your courage to share your experience has encouraged me to share mine with my readers and so I`ll try to get it out on notepad.

Thanks again, your site looks great and your story is truly an example of personal & spiritual backbone.

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Dorian aka coffeesister |_|) June 19, 2008 at 7:58 pm

Sharing & honesty are two of the healthiest choices we can make. They’re also key to continued good choices. You’ve done a dynamic service for yourself as well as readers of this post; thank you. Your improved choices are indicative of the new heights you’re now capable of for our depths increase the opposite potential.

You summed it up perfectly in that you not only chose to learn but take control. Having an addictive personality too, I didn’t stay in meetings either – for the same reason – but consistently do a check of whether I’m abdicating my control. Ironically, sobriety can become equally addictive. Caring who I am & that I’m in control is far more effective.

(|_|*cheers*|_|)
“Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism.” ~ Carl Gustav Jung

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Jonathan June 19, 2008 at 8:29 pm

Great article! Very powerful and touching, thanks for sharing all your insights. Kindest Regards.
J

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Peter | Pick The Brain June 19, 2008 at 8:32 pm

Jonathan,

Firstly, your site looks great. As someone who has been through the same process (new domain and blog name) I know you have probably been very busy as of late making sure everything goes smoothly with the transition.

Secondly, thank you for such an honest and open article. Drugs have played a part in my past as well, and I share your sentiment that it’s through the darkness we can see the light.

Peter

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A. June 19, 2008 at 8:40 pm

Very moving. All of the decisions you made after that day were mature. Its hard to say anything to you other than congratulations, you’re a lucky man.

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Tom June 19, 2008 at 9:07 pm

This is an inspiring story–your introspection and ability to step outside of yourself, and see the false promise that is drugs makes me proud to be a fellow addict in remission for 2 years now. Although my drug of choice was an opiate, I am very familiar with the hellish paranoia that accompanies a coke crash. I believe everything happens for a reason, though, including me stumbling upon your blog. I would not give up my bottom and redemption for anything in the world because it has helped make me a man of virtue and wisdom. Finally, I also do not agree with the methods employed by AA/NA–getting off drugs for me took difficult innerwork with my beloved counselor/mentor.

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Morgan June 19, 2008 at 9:45 pm

This is such an amazing story. I truly am happy that you were able to get back on your feet, perhaps not smoothly, but successfully nonetheless.
Really, this is proof to me that, no matter what the issue, it is always possible to change and to grow.
Thank you, and best wishes.

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Robert Barbato June 19, 2008 at 10:04 pm

I have the utmost respect for you. You sir, are a true man.

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Clay Collins | The Growing Life June 20, 2008 at 12:49 am

Your site is awesome and this article is great. Awesome job.

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JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, You June 20, 2008 at 1:12 am

Jonathan..
This moved me to tears. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing something so personal and so life changing with us. You had me cheering for Ev with such pride :) (Ok and for you too)
I am amazed by your turnaround and can’t help but think how lucky we are that this is how you went down with it. To read the backstory of your passion with personal development.. just wow…

Thank you so much for being living proof that things will be ok with the right mindset. I *really* needed to read this.

Oh – and J-man? The new site looks amazing. I KNEW it would be worth the wait. Love it!

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Robert A. Henru June 20, 2008 at 1:48 am

Jonathan, congratz for your new blog. And thanks for your courage to share your story. It must not be easy, but hopefully through your story, it will inspire many others, to change and take the responsibility on the mess they’re in.
Happy that you have changed now, you’ve got a much better future ahead.
All the best!
Robert

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Tim Brownson June 20, 2008 at 4:25 am

I was out last night and I decided to check my e-mails just before bed when I came in. I have no idea why I clicked through here because I intended catching up this morning, but I did, and I started reading and I couldn’t stop.

Very powerful post. It especially resonated with me because in the 90’s I had a dance record shop for 8 years. In that time I was heavily involved in the clubbing and djing scene and the all that that entails.

I was lucky because I was an occasional indulger and never took it past that. However, when I hear stuff like this I always think ‘there but for the grace of God go I’ In retrospect all my friends grew up and came through it safely at the same time and I think that made it much easier to say enough is enough.

To turn your back on your best friend takes guts, commitment and a special person or persons to support you and you had all 3.

Best of luck to both of you!

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Dorie June 20, 2008 at 5:52 am

I saw this over at BC this morning but I wanted to come to here to thank you for sharing. I was really touched by the way you wrote. Best of luck to both you and your wife on your path together.

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Tom Volkar / Delightful Work June 20, 2008 at 7:48 am

Thanks for sharing this experience in such heartfelt fashion. You did indeed make a powerful turnaround all at once. Kudos to you man. You have found your light and it shines brightly for others.

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Alaia June 20, 2008 at 9:11 am

Hey Jonathan,

Thanks for sharing your story! And I love the new blog name. Can’t wait to read more articles.

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Jarani June 20, 2008 at 6:27 pm

This was an amazing read. The night my mom and I recieved the call about your overdose I was worried to death about you both. I feel that you’ve both overocome so many obstacles and I know your marriage will flourish. I’m so proud of you and my sister. You are both so intelligent and I hope that luck allows me to be the same.

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RamTsam June 20, 2008 at 7:24 pm

Your article is very good and will be useful for many. Determination to change your entire attitude has pawed a new way for you. All the best to have a wonderful and abundant life in all walks of your life.

RamTsam

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Seth Kursel June 20, 2008 at 9:19 pm

I also question and manipulate everything I can get my hands and mind on. I’m just sitting here right now wondering, and trying to get inspiration from you about, how to use this. Because strong inquisitiveness like that shouldn’t always lead, as it often does, to hedonism, substance abuse. What’s the right direction, then? Seems you figured things out, and FOUND the answers, huh? In the Four Agreements, which I’ll check out ASAP. And then your life went on; that seems sad to me, that it’s not life’s culmination to find all the answers worth finding.

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vimoh June 20, 2008 at 11:30 pm

You were right in making your story public. I don’t know what to say though. :) I do dislike speechlessness.

So cheers to you and your family for making it through the terrible times. And thank you for writing this!

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Laurie June 21, 2008 at 10:19 am

It takes great strength to make the decision to change like you did and stick to it. You say an angel was watching over you, let me suggest the very hand of God.

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Simon Hill June 21, 2008 at 3:09 pm

I have enjoyed your writing for some time now and so having the privilege to understand a very important, personal perspective that you bring to it makes me very grateful.

Best wishes

Simon

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Katie West/Life Renovations June 21, 2008 at 5:30 pm

Jonathan,
Thank you for sharing and being so open with such intimate details. I believe firmly that the more we are open with each other in this society, the more we get over the imagined hurdle that “others have it all figured out” which in turns magnifies our own isolation. I appreciate your courage to open these doors which bring about togetherness in our common struggles. Thank you for your courage and your ability to transform what was darkness into such light.

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CJ June 21, 2008 at 9:01 pm

I too have an addictive personality, and because of that I too got into personal development. What you say about finding the light from the darkness is really true. It can be that way if you make the choice to change and grow.

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Jonathan June 21, 2008 at 9:52 pm

I apologize for taking so long to respond to this initial post. I’m just kind of speechless right now at the reaction it has gotten.

Thank you everyone for your support and kind words. I think what’s amazed me most is the feedback I’ve gotten from those that haven’t had any experience with drugs or alcohol and how they can still relate to my experience.

To me, that’s just a testament to the universality of struggles and how we can all relate to the dark times in our lives. I truly believe it’s in those moments that we see the light, whether or not we have the ability to take action to move toward it. Just that juxtaposition in of itself to me is the beauty in life.

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Nathalie Lussier June 22, 2008 at 8:56 am

Every one wants to be a better individual, but not many have the attitude to do it. You had it all.. great post

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Laurie June 22, 2008 at 9:50 pm

I find myself returning to your sight. I am hypnotized by the beautiful photo of you and your wife kissing. It’s such an emotional picture. Full of romance, intimacy and love. Thanks for sharing. PS you two are a beautiful couple. Your wife is gorgeous!

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SaiF June 23, 2008 at 2:52 am

Hey Jonathan!

Thank you for writing this post.

It felt like I was vicariously living your life and when I finished, it felt a little bit like I was reborn.

Thank you for this =)

You’re a great person Jonathan and I love you for coming into my life to hear this.

Thank you.

To CANI,

SaiF
The World’s First Teen
Personal Development Video Blogger

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Rc June 23, 2008 at 7:38 pm

I enjoyed your story, well the positive of it at least. In this life we have to get through the negatives to see the light thats the truth. Keep up the good work!

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RJ June 25, 2008 at 8:02 am

Wow. Thank you for posting this Jonathan, very inspiring.
Love the new site design too :)

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James July 2, 2008 at 6:21 pm

I am sitting here, with tears in my eyes after reading this. There are many parallels to my own life in this story. Thank you so much for sharing this story with us, as I’m sure it gives many who read it renewed hope. You are a hero. I am overjoyed that I stumbledupon this story.

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Angie Lay July 5, 2008 at 8:03 pm

What an inspiration you are! I’m truly touched by your honesty and courage in your post. Best of luck to you. I’m loving the posts I’m reading here and will definitely subscribe.

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Sean C July 11, 2008 at 4:41 pm

Incredible story man. I’ve never touched cocaine. In fact, I don’t think i’ve even been around it. The way you told the story though I could sense the euphoria of using and feel the pain of the overdose. This is a story of survival. It’s also a story of overcoming the demons inside one’s self. You tackled yours head on with sheer will power. The heartbeat of your strength appears to be your wife.

You are a lucky man.

Never look back, unless it’s to warn others the dangers of that path. I hope writing this out helped yourself and others.

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Jared Goralnick July 12, 2008 at 5:58 am

Thank you for sharing this, Jonathan. It was no doubt not the easiest to write, but will likely help a LOT of people. Thank you : )

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Kelly@SHE-POWER July 14, 2008 at 6:11 am

Inspiring post Jonathan. It takes guts to go back to that place and write about times like these. I know this because I refer to my own struggles with drugs in a joking manner and I’m not sure I could write this personal a post. There are too many ugly stories and incidents and I guess I’d rather forget them.

I wish you well with your recovery and agree that the whole NA thing is not for everyone. We all have to find our own truth and our own path back. Like you, mine involved my spouse, and I’m not sure where I’d be today if not for him.

By the way, that photo is one of the most tender and passionate photos I’ve ever seen. Gorgeous.

Kelly

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Desika Nadadur | I Am My Own Master July 16, 2008 at 2:29 pm

Wow, Jonathan! I had no idea, you went through all this. I am very happy that you recovered and found your light. Great job!

Desika

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janelle August 13, 2008 at 9:01 am

It takes a lot of courage to come forward and share a personal experience like that. It really is an inspiration to everyone, and I’m sure you can look back in retrospect and feel really great about how far you’ve come.

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Jared December 30, 2008 at 7:45 am

The gift of desperation is a beautiful thing. Unfortunately, it’s a gift we’re able to give someone else.

Great story Jonathon, thanks for sharing.

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Jared December 30, 2008 at 7:46 am

Correction, “unable” to give.

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aprilx January 15, 2009 at 11:59 pm

i enjoyed your candor and humility.
also the first-person account of what it’s like to be on coke. i’ve always been too scared to try it. i never will try it.
congratulations on coming around, and so quickly!!
you are very fortunate, and appreciative–great balance.
best of luck to you and thank you for sharing your experiences and learnings!!

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Mike P April 2, 2009 at 3:03 pm

I just found this from Write to Done. (I’ve been reading your guest posts on Zenhabits for months also.)

So very brave of you to share this. I’m sure it’s more than achieved the goal you had for it.

Thank you.

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Ambiome April 3, 2009 at 5:17 am

I so glad you shared this with us. I also have an addictive personality, and I know what you’ve been through. Your story is very inspiring and I really identified myself…

Many thanks

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Katherine Pritchett April 6, 2009 at 9:55 pm

Jonathan,
Thank you for sharing your truth in such a deeply moving way. It is amazing to hear about your journeys through the underworld, and how you have, day by day, ‘integrated’ your depths into your awareness as you continue to individuate. I am so happy you shared. It touched me in a deep way, and I will continue to check up on your posts.

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CaseyFronczek June 21, 2009 at 7:26 am

I saw that Casey Fronczek is offering fishing trips now down in south Florida. Does anybody have any input on these trips or has anyone been on one of these trips before?

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James NomadRip July 6, 2009 at 3:15 pm

Great read. We have more in common than I first realized. It sure is a nice feeling to have survived your own mistakes even though you can’t really explain how or why.

Your wife sounds like wonderful young lady (not to mention stunningly beautiful).

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Bob | Drug Recovery July 10, 2009 at 2:44 pm

Thank you for sharing this! I realise that it is very difficult to share personal stories like that! It is always fascinating to read about people’s personal journey through life and how they use their experiences to integrate it into who they are and they react to their own environment!

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leandra July 24, 2009 at 11:17 am

Wow! This is such an amazingly honest story that inspires me to crawl to the heights of my own personal honesty more and more. There is definitely universality in all sorts of struggles.

Thank you, Jonathan.

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leandra July 24, 2009 at 11:21 am

Neither our stories nor our struggles are our own.

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Branko January 15, 2010 at 3:34 pm

Your story is a ever repeating life proof – no matter how many times you are hit and on your knees, the only thing you should do is stand up, fight and go further! In fact this is the only choice.

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Altair February 14, 2010 at 2:38 am

I am left in awe. I had stumbled upon your website in search of self growth. I am in awe because it’s nice to run into people who you have much in common with or can learn from. As time goes on, this path seems less and less “against the grain”. I don’t know.. I keep finding myself deleting what I’m saying because it sounds, “cliche.” lol anyways, thank you. Your articles are great and I actually felt, for the first time, a sense of connection while learning. Thank you!

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Gloria Novak September 23, 2010 at 3:34 pm

What a great story that was. My son struggled with his addiction for years. We tried to help him but no matter what we did nothing worked. He past away August 9, 2008. The drug took his life. I am glad you found someone to get you through this. It will never be the same without him.

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Vanilla September 30, 2010 at 11:59 am

Wowee, in a strange way, felt like I was meant to read this article. I am 19 & living alone, very far away from home- in Germany. Have been experimenting with shiz here & there & don’t really know how I feel about it, (my expermenting.) I don’t quite know how to express what I am feeling but here goes. This post makes me want to stick to just my ciggies, & maybe even give them up forever. Your strength makes me want to be strong & thank God for your life. Might not make sense but then again what does. :) Okay that is all. Much love to you & your wife!

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Mike Simmons October 12, 2010 at 10:13 am

You are very brave to share your story in the manner. And I wish you continued success.

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luanned June 22, 2011 at 1:20 am

This is amazing. I’m glad that there are people like you who are brave enough to share your experiences with others. I’m sure that you’ll touch lives of many people who are in the same situation as you were back then. I hope that many people can read this.

I like the part when you say “I’m working on it within myself,” coz I believe that it should really start from within. It’s important that we address the <a href=”http://theexclusivehawaii.com/”>root causes</a> that are driving the behavior. That will help you return to a life of enriched clarity and joyful sobriety. I know that there are also other steps along the way, but starting from within is one of the most important. You’re also very blessed to have supportive and loving people around you.

God bless you. Thanks for sharing your life with us.

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luanned June 22, 2011 at 1:22 am

This is amazing. I’m glad that there are people like you who are brave enough to share your experiences with others. I’m sure that you’ll touch lives of many people who are in the same situation as you were back then. I hope that many people can read this.

I like the part when you say “I’m working on it within myself,” coz I believe that it should really start from within. It’s important that we address the root causes that are driving the behavior. That will help you return to a life of enriched clarity and joyful sobriety. I know that there are also other steps along the way, but starting from within is one of the most important. You’re also very blessed to have supportive and loving people around you.

God bless you. Thanks for sharing your life with us.

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luanned June 22, 2011 at 1:23 am

This is amazing. I’m glad that there are people like you who are brave enough to share your experiences with others. I’m sure that you’ll touch lives of many people who are in the same situation as you were back then. I hope that many people can read this.

I like the part when you say “I’m working on it within myself,” coz I believe that it should really start from within. It’s important that we address the root causes that are driving the behavior. That will help you return to a life of enriched clarity and joyful sobriety. I know that there are also other steps along the way, but starting from within is one of the most important. You’re also very blessed to have supportive and loving people around you.

God bless you. Thanks for sharing your life with us.

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luanned June 22, 2011 at 1:37 am

This is amazing. I’m glad that there are people like you who are brave enough to share your experiences with others. I’m sure that you’ll touch lives of many people who are in the same situation as you were back then. I hope that many people can read this.

I like the part when you say “I’m working on it within myself,” coz I believe that it should really start from within. It’s important that we address the root causes that are driving the behavior. That will help you return to a life of enriched clarity and joyful sobriety. I know that there are also other steps along the way, but starting from within is one of the most important. You’re also very blessed to have supportive and loving people around you.

God bless you. Thanks for sharing your life with us.

http://theexclusivehawaii.com/

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J April 17, 2014 at 3:34 am

This is a very good story. I overdosed on March 31, 2014. My heart rate was close to 200 too. I haven’t touch any drug since that day, only a few cigarettes and beers. I don’t know how long ago this happened to you but your story is very inspiring. It hasn’t been even a month yet but every night after work I like to search for stories like this on the internet to remind me not to do drugs again. God bless you.

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Molly Dickson April 19, 2014 at 5:02 am

Thank you Jonathan,
As the mother who just lost her 22 year old son to a drug overdose, I really appreciate reading your perspective. My son was also a curious and risk taking boy who explored all kinds of different spiritual traditions, yoga, Buddhism, mysticism, and drugs. By the time I became aware that he was using more than just pot at 14 years old, the addictive process had already taken over. I was powerless over his addiction. My struggle is to let go of the failure I feel in being unable to help him. He ended up with a woman much older than him that gave him both sex and drugs, and I as mother, lost my authority and influence. It was a terrible place to be.
Did you have a mother? Father? What part did they play in helping you, if any? Is there anything they could have done or said?
You also manifested “guilt” about your mistreatment of your girlfriend. Our son never expressed any guilt or sorrow for the incredible nightmare that his addiction created in our family. You are fortunate to have had a conscious. Maybe that makes a difference. But I also think that after sufficient time passes, even the nicest kids, lose their caring and loving nature to the addiction.

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ThatRedHead May 10, 2014 at 4:11 am

Thanks for this story. I’m coked out right now. I hate myself for it. But it is so amazing that it almost doesn’t make sense. The cravings are so bad I’ve never ween anyone addicted to THIS drug. But because I’m an alcoholic it feels good to have a pinch to reverse the drunk feeling. My anxiety just might ruin my life. I feel like I have a lit to post but I don’t make sense. I’ve done hallucinating drugs that didn’t ruin my brain cells that coke does.

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Jasmine Walton September 9, 2014 at 11:46 am

I lost everything due to my drug addiction. I didn’t think that I had a problem. I thought I was perfectly fine & normal. I started stealing from my family doing unusual things that I knew were wrong. My husband told me if I didn’t get help that he would leave me and take our girls. My parents stop talking to me I didn’t have nobody. So I agreed to get help once I got my help my life has been so much better. I love being sober it brings so much peace into my life. My family can sleep peacefully at night knowing that I’m okay and I just love that. I’m more active with family activities. My daughters are enjoying me as a mom , my 4 year old told me the other day that I’m the best mommy in the world, she put a big smile on my face because she’s never told me that. That’s one of the reasons I’m going to continue to stay sober for my daughters not only for them but for me as well. I’m 4 months clean today. Bradford saved my life! Jasmine, 22

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Monica December 8, 2014 at 8:20 am

That’s a very inspirational story and you’ve made a huge achievement !
Also I have to thank you, because although it’s not drugs related your last sentences gave me a bit more strength to try and overcome what’s knocking me down.
So thank you.
Take care.

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