If you’re like most people, you have no problem working hard, and making sacrifices to reach your goals.
We’re told stories about great heroes and revolutionaries that defied the odds by working hard, giving things up and making tough choices. You realize that sometimes you need to suck it up and grind when the going gets tough.
It’s a game of Joy Someday. You’ve gotta put in the time if you want to make it happen. The spoils go to those who tough it out. Good things come to those who wait.
That’s the narrative we’re told. And the truth is… it’s complete bullshit.
There’s another, more effortless, alternative path that rarely gets heralded on the evening news. It’s one of Joy Now, not some day. It’s a life of incredible reward and immediate gratification.
It replaces ladders and stepping stones with a path you never want to escape from.
It’s a life that doesn’t involve a pot of gold at the end of the next degree, the next promotion, the next launch. It’s about creating something because it’s dying to be born, not because it’s another task on your prerequisite list.
When I was 5 years old, my mom told me that happiness was the key to life.
When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”.
They told me I didn’t understand the assignment.
I told them they didn’t understand life.
– John Lennon
There are no obligations you must fulfill before experiencing incredible happiness in your work and life. You don’t need to become something first. You don’t need the house first, or the testimonial, or the right number on your bathroom scale.
The only thing you need is to say Yes, to yourself.
No strings. No after I do X. Right… now.
Question: How can you say yes and ditch the prerequisites to your bliss?
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What a great John Lennon quote! The mentality that “I’ll be happy when I have X” will never go away. Once you get X, you’ll only be happy if you can have Y. I think another key issue here is that we attach way too much of our happiness to things, rather than experiences.
@ethanwaldman You’re right. The rabbit hole goes a long way down.
Nice post Jonathan. Isn’t it amazing how difficult we find following, or doing, what makes us happy!!!
@Midlife Maverick Yeah, it’s crazy isn’t it? I often look at other people doing what they want and my first reaction is “how irresponsible!” and then I smack myself. :)
Now is the time and happy is one of the “soul signs” you are on the right path. If you are like me, you can feel your clock ticking … so let’s get on with it.
Right on Jonathan
Today I embraced the dark and it disappeared.
@Loran Hills Beautifully said.
Great post. We need to focus on enjoying the journey and stop worrying so much about the destination!
I’ve been focusing so much on the little improvements recently that I’m forgetting to start working toward the big picture.
This post really rings true to me for that reason. I need to dedicate myself and my time–my future self deserves better than to be “put on hold.”
I’ve been thinking about this very fact as I walk my dog every morning. Usually, I’m completely focused on the day ahead and what I need to do. And I’m often dreaming about what life will be like when I’ve gotten to where I think I need to be. The last few days I’ve realized that I’m walking my dog on a beautiful day, the sun is coming through the autumn leaves, and I get to go home and work on my own projects. Not sure what else I’m looking for. Thanks, Jonathan.
@Seth Leonard That’s so awesome Seth. It’s important to remember to enjoy where we are. It’s too easy to get on an endless pursuit to finding that joy someday. The truth is there is nothing missing at all, and even if we want to create something more, it should be an expansion of what we experience now.
Great advice my friend. I’m going to post this at my quotes page http://www.facebook.com/DeepLifeQuotes
you may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one – another quote from John Lennon.
The best day to start something meaning-/useful was 5 Years ago, the second best is today.
I really enjoy my life, every single day, because thats the why the love goes.
Thanks for the post.
I tried “naming my own price” but it didn’t work. Is there an issue with the page?
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This idea of happiness as something “attainable” is a fairly new concept in our history as humans, and it’s an unbelievably incorrect one, as you said here Jonathan. Happiness can be cultivated daily by finding what you adequately titled Joy Now.
This idea of happiness as something “attainable” is a fairly new concept in our history as humans, and it’s an unbelievably incorrect one, as you said here Jonathan. Happiness can be cultivated daily by finding what you adequately titled Joy Now.
@spiritsentient Yeah and I think it’s totally possible to want more, but still be rooted in happiness now. That’s the whole point, right?
@JonathanMead Amen Jon, “I love where I am, I’m cool, I’m happy — AND I’m eager for more.”I ‘preach’ it all day long (and it’s a running theme for you and your peeps too, :) I had a coaching call today on just this very thing :D Again, thanks for the reminder :D
@taichikeaton Glad that it inspired you. Sounds like you have some awesome goals for 2012.
Just Do It!………I also make sure to notice everything around me……..that makes me enjoy the journey I’m on and always, at least most of the time, be aware of how I’m feeling………that’s how I say YES……. :)
And I love all the beliefs and conditioning that has showed up in my life so I can choose to change it…….and I love that Lennon quote!
thanks Jonathon!
“Replace ladders and stepping stones with a path you never want to escape from.” ~ done and done :)
@ChaoticKatieP I like your enthusiasm Katie. :)
Loved reading this.. and I so agree.. our happiness begins NOW.. with the life we are living at this moment. To heck with waiting. I want to live happy now. xo hugs thks for sharing. Loved reading this!
@BonitaRoseK Thanks Bonita. Glad you stopped by.
I like the idea of saying Yes, but I admit that at the end of this post I was still thinking, “Exciting idea, but HOW do I actually do this?”
And then tonight after dinner with my two little boys, I am cleaning up and my 6yo wants to show me something he’s working on. In that moment I noticed that I could easily put him off until the dishes were done and the kitchen was clean. Or I could pause, say YES, give him my attention, and then go back to the dishes.
I said Yes.
@kirstinpinit That’s so great. Thanks for sharing that Kirstin.
I think a distinction needs to be made, though, between creating your own dream life and receiving the instant gratification, and this new generation who expect immediate gratification because that’s how they’ve been raised. I agree that we don’t have to slog through our lives, waiting for retirement before we can begin to enjoy, but there certainly is an aspect of work/creating/manifesting that must happen first.
But, hey, there are days when I let my kids eat their dessert first. A little insta gratification won’t kill them. (;
@_MoneyCoach_ I think that we can have gratification in choosing to work hard on the path we choose to create. The journey is the part that makes everything interesting. We can find and choose joy in that
@[email protected]_MoneyCoach_ I totally agree. It’s just that with credit card and other debt being what it is these days (totally out of control!!), people clearly aren’t putting in the work on their path before getting the gratification, which is sad. I agree that the work we do, the path we are on is what it’s all about!
Love it!
Sometimes I strategically place happiness roadblocks in my own way. When I catch myself, I’ll say to my ego “hey ego, thanks for trying to protect me bit it’s all good!”.
Thanks for the encouragement to sat yes to happ!
Much love,
Tali
@TreehouseChatter Yeah, I think it’s the ego’s natural response to life. The idea that you can experience joy *right now* kind of threatens its existence.
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I loved it, I just came to a realization about your words this past Monday. Reading all that information about success, it finally all clicked that we must have it NOW before we can receive it tomorrow.
Great post, thanks! I was on a teleseminar recently and someone said, “what if you decide that this IS your great life already, instead of thinking it’s somewhere off in the future? I found that helped because when I started to get caught up in whatever BS since, I just thought, “does this fit with my great life?”
There has to be a balance between instant gratification and patience. Someday = I’m too scared to sacrifice or take action NOW.
I’ve found acting “as if”, really help. Act like the person you aspire to become today, not once you’ve completed X or Y.
A funny thing starts to happen, you wake up one day to find you are the person your dreamed of becoming.
Best of luck in 2012 Jonathan!
I am a big fan of that quote. It really puts things into perspective when you thin about it. Being happy should be your main focus. You can surely be sucessful, but if you aren’t happy, whats the point?
Jonathan – I’ve been sold on this idea for the last four years – and I so agree with what you say. I threw ‘someday’ out and adopted happiness every day instead! Great post, as always!
Yes I have dreams. Yes I have goals. But I choose to live my life happy and joyful every day.. while I’m waiting. You must. Otherwise, you live a wasted life. xo bonitarose in Fargo
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I’ve been thinking about this lately as though I have fulfilled many of my dreams, and I earn a living doing what I love, I often get bogged down in the day-to-day and don’t feel happy in the moment. There is something about the stress of negotiating and wrangling for a living with my paid work that does dirty it somehow.
I’ve decided that I’d like to pursue a couple more creative avenues that I will do without any thought of charging for them at any point. They will be: music (singing) and crystal ball gazing!
Love it Jonathan! Especially the quote. I get so caught up in my overachiever tendencies that I lose sight of where I am, and how enjoyable THIS MOMENT can be. Or I get caught up in self doubt, thinking that SOMEDAY is just too far away.
The truth is, you’re right- happiness is waiting for me to reach out and embrace it. I just have to see more clearly. I’m not alone on this journey… it’s been here all this time; I just have to acknowledge it! :)
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