The Fastest Habit Disruption Technique (How to Change Who You Are in an Instant)

The Fastest Habit Disruption Technique (How to Change Who You Are in an Instant)

What if you could change who you’ve always been in an instant? Like a costume change in a grand play, you transform into a completely different person. Unrecognizable from your old self.

You’re no longer you. You’re free to be anything and everything you’ve always wanted to be.

You can do that. You can change anything about yourself.

Right Now.
Just start by pondering this one extraordinary truth: The vast makeup of who we are is the result of repetitive behaviors rooted in beliefs we have about ourselves. And all beliefs are are simply repetitive thoughts.

So… what if you ferociously disrupted repetitive thoughts to the point of them never being able to return in the same way?

Which begs the next question: What’s the most potent method for radically disturbing those ingrained grooves of thinking?

I’ve been using a simple technique to change all sorts of limiting beliefs.

Things like:

  • I’ll always have tension and muscular imbalances in my body. It’s just something I’ll have to deal with.
  • I’ll always be just on the edge of perfect health. But I’ll never sustain high performing energy.
  • I’ll always be operating just outside of what I’m capable of. I’ll never be able to give completely without fear.

Yadda, yadda, yadda. You get the deal.

The point is, all of these things are true first, because I believe them, and second, because I act out those beliefs in my behavior and body.

Here’s how to disrupt limiting beliefs forever

Just start saying: I’m the type of person that… [your new belief about yourself here].

For example…

  • I’m the type of person that has incredible stamina.
  • I’m the type of person that is always relaxed and at ease in uncomfortable situations.
  • I’m the type of person that gives love freely without needing anything in return.
  • I’m the type of person that shows up fully alive and gives unabashedly.
  • I’m the type of person that is awesome at believing new things (meta belief, did you catch that?).

Remember this doesn’t have to be technically true based on past information. Those events were simply the results of repetitive thoughts that created repetitive behaviors that shaped your reality.

Identity and the truth about habit change

A lot of my personal research on habit change suggests changing your identification with your habits is the most critical ingredient to making a lasting change.

Think about it, if you identify as a very fit, strong person, you’ll naturally take actions that support that belief. If you identify as sexy, you’ll naturally emanate a very attractive energy.

It’s just who-you-are. Accountability also increases likelihood of sticking to habits and new beliefs. So go ahead, try picking one thing you’d like to change. Then come up with your own “I’m the type of person that _____” and post it in the comments if you want to double your chances of success.

Make it your mantra. Put it on your fridge, nightstand, bathroom mirror.

It might feel weird at first and that’s completely normal. If you feel any internal resistance, try using this three part technique:

  1. “What I desire is _____” (because that is always true)
  2. Moving to “I’m becoming the type of person that ____”
  3. And finally “I’m the type of person that _____.”

PropsThis is a technique I learned from the brilliant Danielle LaPorte in The Desire Map.

Example: What I desire is more energy and vibrance. I’m becoming the type of person that always chooses to fuel my body with good, whole foods. I’m the type of person that is naturally healthy and strong.

Feels good, doesn’t it?

What’s one belief you want to change? Share below and let the snowball start growing.

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Vincent July 11, 2013 at 11:33 am

I could definitely vouch for this because this is the sort of mindset training I did for myself when I first began self-improvement. I am confident, I am charismatic, I am motivated, etc. These things became a part of me and it didn’t have to be said aloud to others. Instead, it was repeated over and over in my head. When I was acting against these beliefs I reflected and asked myself what I could have done better. Next time around I am much more prepared.

My habits changed gradually over time until it just seemed natural, as if I’ve always been this way. I wasn’t always confident, secure in myself, nor was I always the most social person. Your mind is pretty powerful!

As for the present, I want to change the belief that I look young. Several years ago I’d often have people tell me that I looked too young for my age. Sure, I’ll admit my face looks young, but lately I’ve had many people tell me they thought I was well into my twenties because of the way I carried myself and all the interesting things I knew. Sometimes the insecurity still creeps in on me, but I’m not young!

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Jonathan July 11, 2013 at 5:31 pm

Interesting stuff Vincent. I think that you can change how you feel about yourself and carry yourself, but others perceptions… that’s pretty much out of your hands.

Dustin July 11, 2013 at 11:55 am

Awesome article.

I have the unhealthy habit of often defaulting to negative self-talk. I’ve taken massive action to reverse this. And I’ve started to get some serious traction.

This technique will be an awesome and welcome addition to my tool kit. : )

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Jonathan July 11, 2013 at 5:31 pm

Thought you might like this with the work you’ve been doing.

Alan July 11, 2013 at 12:18 pm

Good stuff…
I love this train of thought. All it really takes are Small Daily Steps and your life will soon change. You have to start though.

I like this statement. “The quality of questions you ask yourself dictate the quality of your life”.

Have an awesome day everyone.
Alan

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Jonathan July 11, 2013 at 5:31 pm

I’ve noticed that as well Alan.

What’s a question that’s made a huge difference for you?

Alan July 12, 2013 at 7:50 pm

Lately ,the question that has been on my mind the most is this “What is it that makes me want to be better”. I love thinking on that and writing down what comes out. I find that if I ask this often enough I weed out all the stuff that just isn’t serving me or in my immediate frame of reference.

Get’s me where I want to go ….faster.

Cheers,
Alan

Meghan Kerner July 11, 2013 at 1:19 pm

Great ideas for changing not only habits, but the very framework of who you are. Our minds are so powerful and our egos like to be consistent with our beliefs — that is what makes choosing these new beliefs so powerful. Our ego will identify with the new belief over time and the decisions that backup that belief will become automatic.

Here’s a new belief for me:
I’m the type of person who has an amazing immune system so I am always healthy and energetic:)

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Jonathan July 11, 2013 at 5:32 pm

I love it. I can feel your radiance.

Kate July 11, 2013 at 7:07 pm

Awesome. Glad you didn’t just leave it at “I’m the type of person who…” <– One thing I've noticed with that statement, that you touched on for sure, is that sometimes I'll say something like that to myself (I'm the type of person who meditates every day, for example) and the immediate, programmed thought that comes is "Uh, no you're not" and it negates what I am trying to instill in its place! You mentioned the word 'becoming', which is awesome…. also words like 'beginning' or 'allowing' – "I'm beginning to choose healthy options at every meal" or "I'm allowing the space to meditate daily" can be super helpful! (It worked… I actually do meditate every day now and it's awesome)

Asking questions can help too, if only because it shifts the focus away from the negative thought or limiting belief. Some I use are "Is that really true?" "Why is that the case?" and "What does this thought show about my world view?"

My biggest ones right now are actually pretty similar to yours-
"I'll always have wrist and shoulder issues" (So I'll never make the progress I desire)
"I always stop myself short of truly committing" (Leading me to resistance and disappointment)
"Who am I to feel this good?" (Shouldn't success and well-being come from struggle and sacrifice?)

Great post!

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Kate July 11, 2013 at 7:10 pm

Ha I guess I should have posted the changes:

“My body is becoming whole, healed, and healthy every single day”
“I’m the type of person that goes all in, living and loving freely and completely”
“I’m beginning to understand that we are born to thrive and that by feeling good, I am contributing to the world”

Rex July 11, 2013 at 8:07 pm

“The vast makeup of who we are is the result of repetitive behaviors rooted in beliefs we have about ourselves.”

This is crux of the matter for me. If I look for it, there is always some tension somewhere in my body about something going on in my life at that moment — some echo of belief about who I think I’m supposed to be (because of, you know, TV, school, socialization (is that redundant?), insane laws). That echo is just enough for part of my subconscious to wince and knot something up in my head or my neck or back. So, in order to take care of myself, I had to look at most of my beliefs… What I found was interesting in its expanse. Not much was left — of course, this was just the first layer of the onion. I eventually realized I was just operating on another subset of subconscious beliefs about myself. I have peeled 3-4 layers as of yet and this is the most terrifying best tasting onion ever.

So, an investigation by you, into you. What exactly is the belief at the root of what I feel about myself? How did it get there? Is it real? Is it TRUTH?

The most potent tool I’ve found to stop repetitive thoughts is martial arts, not that insane MMA circus, traditional internal and external martials (mixed with some wilderness training). It’s a spiritual, mental, and very physical tradition. The trifecta of mind/body/spirit training will make these phrases your truth. All you have to do act.

ACT. Get up now and take an action that is abnormal for you, go for a walk, talk to a stranger (who doesn’t look like a mugger, bring a friend, be safe), get out of your comfort zone and take a new action until you find the one that is your truth.

Your task is to discover your work and give yourself to it.

____________

Everyone has a spirit that can be refined, a body that can be trained in some manner, a suitable path to follow. You are here for no other purpose that to realize your inner divinity and manifest your innate enlightenment. Foster peace in your own life and then apply the Art to all that you encounter.
–Morihei Ueshiba

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Rex July 11, 2013 at 8:45 pm

sorry, wasn’t trying to be preachy, i was actually motivating myself, like it says to do in this post…..

how strange. ;)

noelle lake July 12, 2013 at 8:08 am

Hi Rex – This did not sound “preachy” to me at all. I really appreciate what you shared. I also feel that the key is interrupting the unhealthy belief (I love your talking to a stranger that’s not a mugger suggestion!), and am not sure about how I feel about the latter steps of substituting a different more positive one. I am all in favor of doing whatever it takes to empower oneself and I think this is one approach. But it feels a little like the pendulum swinging vigorously in the opposite direction. What about letting the pendulum just settle down?

My approach would be slightly different. I think when a limiting or uncomforting belief shows up, you stop and work with it to understand “is this someone’s else’s thought that I’ve unconsciously adopted/ie, my conditioning” (quite likely) or “is this true of me?”(also possible). If it is the former, you let it go. No opposite thought needed, really, just let it go. If it is the latter, you say “okay” and you work with acceptance. Of course this requires that you are actively seeking to become skilled at (1) awareness, (2) discernment (knowing your inner wisdom from your inner liar), and (3) letting go, all of which take practice.

The on-the-spot work with the limiting belief becomes very efficient (even though the preliminary work takes time). The benefit of not substituting an opposite belief is that then you have one less belief that you have to measure up to later. In the end, all beliefs about yourself require energy to maintain and can back fire, even the so called positive ones. Just living moment to moment according to your values and ethics and not holding beliefs (or as few as possible) frees up your energy to act, since you are not continually checking in with yourself around “who you are”.

All that said, I do think that a positive belief is better than a negative one, I just think that no belief is better still when that is possible. Please fell free to argue with me.

Rex July 12, 2013 at 10:47 am

“All that said, I do think that a positive belief is better than a negative one, I just think that no belief is better still when that is possible.”

Can’t argue with that. I totally agree that in the moment realization and investigation is key. Since each time we ignore it, it remains an ingrained part of our conditioning.

Also completely agree that no belief is still better. It is the best. In this very moment, none of my concerns are real, except that I think I forgot to wash this shirt before wearing back to work (ew).

Thanks for the article!

Frater Smith July 11, 2013 at 9:36 pm

This is very similar to what Franz Bardon describes in his book “Initiation into Hermetics”… he calls the technique Auto-Suggestion. Here is the excerpt from the book:

1. Autosuggestion or the Secret of Subconscious ~
Before proceeding to describe the exercises of the second step, let me explain the secret of the
subconscious and its practical consequences. In the same way as normal consciousness has its
seat in the soul, and is activated by the cerebrum in the body, consequently the head,
subconsciousness is a property of the soul, residing in the cerebellum, i.e., the back part of the
head. With respect to the magical practice, let us deal with the study of the psychological
function of the cerebellum, consequently the subconscious.
In every individual that is in his right senses, the normal sphere of consciousness is intact,
i.e., he always and at any time is capable of making use of the functions of normal
consciousness. As it results from our investigations, there is no power in the universe nor in
man that does not vary between opposites. Hence we may consider subconsciousness as the
opposite to normal consciousness. That which in normal consciousness we subsume by the
concepts of thinking, feeling, willing, memory, reason, and intellect is reflected in our
subconsciousness in a contrary way. Practically speaking, we can regard our subconsciousnessas our opponent. The incentive or the impulse to all that is undesirable, such as our passions,
our failures, our weaknesses, originates just in this very sphere of consciousness. To the pupil
now falls the task of introspection to disclose the work of this subconsciousness, according to
the key of the elements or the tetrapolar magnet. This is a satisfactory task in as much as the
pupil will acquire self-reliance by his own reflection or meditation.
Hence, subconsciousness is the incentive of all we do not wish for. Let us learn how to
transmute this, so to speak, antagonistic aspect of our ego, so that it not only does no harm,
but on the contrary will help to realize our desires. Subconsciousness needs time and space in
the material world for its realization, two basic principles valid for all things that have to be
transmuted into reality from the causal world. Withdrawing time and space from the
subconscious, the opposite polarity will cease to bring its influence to bear upon us, and we
shall be able to realize our wishes through the subconscious. This sudden elimination of the
subconscious offers the key for the practical use of autosuggestion. If, e.g., we inculcate in
the subconsciousness the wish of not giving in tomorrow or any other time, to any of our
passions, say smoking or drinking alcohol, subconsciousness will have time enough to put
some hindrance, directly or indirectly, in our way. In most of these cases, mainly, in the
presence of feeble or underdeveloped willpower, subconsciousness will nearly always succeed
in taking us by surprise or causing failures. On the other hand, of we exclude the concepts of
time and space from subconsciousness while impregnating it with a desire, only the positive
pole of subconsciousness will affect us, normal consciousness being equated, and our
impregnate desire must have the success we are expecting. This knowledge and the
possibilities related to it, are of the greatest importance for the magical development and
have, therefore, to be considered as far as self-suggestion is concerned.
The phrasing to choose for autosuggestion must always be expressed in the present or
imperative form. You should not say: “I shall stop drinking or smoking or whatever”. The
correct form is: “I do not smoke, I do not drink”, or else, “I do not like smoking or drinking”
and so on, according to whatever you wish to suggest in a positive or negative sense. The key
or clue to self-suggestion is to be found in the form of the phrasing. It is that which, always
and in every respect, has to be considered if you wish to do autosuggestion through
subconsciousness.
Subconsciousness is acting in the most effective and penetrating way during the night, when
man is asleep. In the sate of sleep, the activity of normal consciousness is suspended,
subconsciousness working in its place. The most appropriate time for autosuggestion
receptivity, therefore, is the moment when the body is resting drowsily in bed, i.e.,
immediately before falling asleep as well as immediately after waking up, when we remain
still half-awake. That does not mean that a different time would be quite unsuitable for
self-suggestion, but these tow moments are most promising, subconsciousness being most
responsive then. That is why the magician will never go to sleep in an emotional attitude
such as anger or depression, worries which would have an unfavorable influence in his
subconsciousness, going on in the same train of thoughts with which he had fallen asleep.
Always go to sleep with peaceful and harmonious thoughts or ideas about success, health and
pleasant feelings.
Before you practice autosuggestion, make up a small chain of 40 beads. A knotted piece of
string also will do fine. This expedient is only meant to avoid counting when you are
reiterating the suggestive formula over and over, so as not to divert your attention. This little
gadget also will serve to make sure how many disturbances happened when you were
practicing concentration and meditation exercises. All you have to do is move a bead or a
know at every interruption. The practical use of autosuggestion is very simple. If you have worded that which you want to
achieve in a precise sentence in the present and imperative form, such as: “I feel better and
better every day”, or “I do not like smoking [or: drinking, &c]”, or “I am healthy, content,
happy”, then you may proceed to the real practice. Immediately before falling asleep, take
your string of beads or knots and, whether in an undertone, softly, or in your mind, according
to your surroundings, repeat the phrase you have chosen and move one bead or knot at every
repetition until you arrive at the end of the string. Now you know for sure that you repeated
the formula 40 times. The main point is that you imagine your wish as being realized already
and having actual existence. If you do not yet feel sleepy after the 40 repetitions, engage
yourself for a while longer with the idea that your wish has been accomplished, and keep
doing so until at last you fall asleep with your desire still in mind. You must try to transfer
your desire to the sleep. Should you fall asleep while reiterating the formula, the purpose will
be achieved.
In the morning, when you are not quite up and have some time to spare, you ought to reach
for the string of beads and repeat the exercise once more. Some people get up several times
during the night to urinate or for some other reasons. If so, they can repeat this exercise as
well, and they will attain their desires all the sooner [Editor’s note: A more modern practice
is to use a repeating tape cassette deck to accomplish this automatically].
Now the question arises: what kind of wishes can be accomplished by self-suggestion?
Principally, every wish can be fulfilled as far as mind, soul and body are concerned, for
example: refining of the character, repression of ugly qualities, weaknesses, disorders,
recovery of health, removal and promotion of various aptitudes, development of faculties, and
so on. Certainly, desires having nothing to do with the personality as lottery numbers and
such can never be fulfilled.

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Jason July 12, 2013 at 3:04 am

Aha! Great to see another Bardon-trained Hermeticist here! :)

Hermeticists also use air, water and food to acquire new virtues and to snuff out corresponding vices. For example, before consuming a meal or drink, raise your dominant hand above it and imagine a pure white energy radiating from your hand and penetrating the meal. Then bring to mind your desired quality: feel it and believe you have it now! Then push that feeling, via the white light, into your meal. Be mindful, as you eat, that your wish has anchored itself within you.

You’ll find that, after a while, the universe starts delivering the situations that challenge your old vice, allowing you to cultivate the corresponding virtue. For example, if ‘Patience in queues’ is your desired virtue, you’ll now find yourself in queues more often. Then, you can will yourself to express Patience … right at the moment that Impatience begins to rear its head. Eventually, with repetition, Patience will come to you automatically; at that point you’ll know you’ve defeated the old vice and locked in the new virtue.

I won’t elaborate on how air and water are used to complement this practise. But if you’re interested, please head over to hermeticinitiation.com and drop me a line.

Kind regards,

Jason

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Deevra Norling July 12, 2013 at 3:24 am

I’ve always struggled with negative self-limiting beliefs. It’s still a struggle. Some people are natrually optimistic. I’ve always wondered why I lean towards pessimism and have a more depressive personality. I have to work doubly hard to keep positive!

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pht July 12, 2013 at 3:27 am

Take your example back :

Example: What I desire is more energy and vibrance. I’m becoming the type of person that always chooses to fuel my body with good, whole foods. I’m the type of person that is naturally healthy and strong.

This implies that, for you, “fuel my body with good, whole foods” will somehow imply “more energy and vibrance”. Which makes sense, and is not exactly big news. So you’re basically saying : if you want something to happen, find a way to make it happen, and apply it. Causality FTW !

I suspect people’s real issue is to, ahem, find *how* exactly they are going to advance to their goal. Once you’ve written down “I’m *becoming* the kind of person that makes 10K$ a second while staying in bed with dozens of Victoria Secret’s model – and a poney”, is the solution going to be any clearer ?

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Gina Musa July 12, 2013 at 3:53 am

This is a great idea and I used it this morning in order to make a phone call about my finances (I’d been telling my self I was the kind of person who doesn’t understand money….). Also it is perfect for a coaching group I’m running so thank you. Loving your 365 programme by the way :-)

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Nadine July 12, 2013 at 4:53 am

I’m the type of person who pursues her dreams.

Thank you very much for this most inspiring post :)

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Christine G. Adamo July 12, 2013 at 5:29 am

Not to be intrusive, Deevra, but I’d love to hear a new take on yourself – ’cause boy can I relate to it, which is why your post stood out for me. How ’bout we BOTH, together, choose a more constructive thought? Like…? Maybe…?

I am the type of person whose positive self image and belief in limitless uplifting possibilities pay huge dividends and make my life wonderful for me and those around me – without effort, wherever I go and whatever mood I start out in.

I’m just sayin’…you so rock and you’re so worth the positive vibes!!!!

Christine

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Maya Stein July 12, 2013 at 5:48 am

I’m the type of person that is naturally gifted at making a successful and sustainable living from her creative pursuits.

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Alysa July 15, 2013 at 7:53 am

LOVE THIS!!

Try New Things July 12, 2013 at 7:29 am

I am a person who lives vibrantly and fully alive.
I am a person who looks forward to each day with optimism and excitement.

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Ashley Rae July 12, 2013 at 7:46 am

I’m the type of person who wakes up early to get the most out of every day.

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Lucy July 12, 2013 at 7:50 am

Loved this post! The beliefs I would most like to change are:

“I’m an anxious, over-reactive type, that’s just who I am” and
“I’ll never be as fit and strong as I want to be, I just have a weaker constitution/less energy than others”

So I especially love these two:
• I’m the type of person that has incredible stamina.
• I’m the type of person that is always relaxed and at ease in uncomfortable situations.

Thanks Jonathan!

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Bre July 12, 2013 at 8:01 am

I’m the type of person who is always relaxed and confident in social situations.

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Cody Wheeler July 12, 2013 at 9:36 am

Awesome reminder about how our thinking impacts our behavior Jonathan.

Aside from Think and Grow Rich, there’s another great book on this that I read a few months back called Psycho Cybernetics, by Maxwell Maltz. It’s got a lot of short but deep lessons, kind of blog post like, that can really help keep you motivation and inspired during rough situations.

Maltz was one of the pioneers of positive self-talk. I highly recommend that book if any of you guys haven’t read it. It’s been a great addition to my mental toolkit and has helped me in a variety of different avenues.

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sara July 12, 2013 at 10:59 am

Hi Jonathan. Thank you. A great post and wonderful invitation.

I’m the type of person who transforms my weaknesses into strengths.
I’m the type of person who is getting the willingness to create a web presence and step out and write and share, to find my voice, service, vision.
I’m the type of person who finishes my projects.
I’m the type of person who loves sharing my ideas, and encourages and loves to listen to feedback and hearing others ideas.

I’m the type of person who takes action, is not afraid to experiment in public, and is overcoming the lizard brain of fear and its emotionalism.

I’m the type of person who handles adversity with positivity, humor, discipline, dignity, and creative solutions.

I’m the type of sensitive, gentle, creative person who has learned to come into the world with grounding, to hold her own, and find a healthy sustainable way to have a livelihood she is suited for.

I’m the type of person who finds the peeps who get her, support her, root for her.

I’m the type of person who loves to encourage and support people to find their true selves their vision and path and know they are amazing and deserving.

I’m the type of person who can sit and face the computer screen and work and screen out distractions.

I’m the type of person that loves to learn technology and is able to access priorities, set goals, and be accountable.

Thank you for this technique, Jonathan, and others sharing your new programming.

Thank you for the gift and modelling the giving of the type of person I am becoming.
Thank you for this opportunity to share.

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Jonathan July 14, 2013 at 11:14 am

Thank you for sharing Sara.

Michael July 12, 2013 at 11:30 am

Great reminder!

Thanks for the post. Gonna put it into action today!

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Patricia Johnson July 12, 2013 at 1:16 pm

Thank you Jonathan so much for this. Starting with:

I am the type of person that doesn’t allow distractions to keep me from the things I need to accomplish..

I am the type of person who is extremely creative.

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Lynn Allen July 12, 2013 at 5:37 pm

I am the type of person who appreciates great, practical advice and who says “thank you” when it applies to me.

Thank you. This is awesome.

I am the type of person who is focused and organized. I am the type of person who values my own efforts and is willing to charge clients the right amount for the benefits I bring them.

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Karenee July 12, 2013 at 5:42 pm

I’m the type of person that enables others to discover and be the best of themselves….
I show them how by living it myself.

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Jonathan July 14, 2013 at 11:13 am

Nice.

Andrea H. July 12, 2013 at 8:55 pm

Most of the times habits are a kind of highways of the mind which we are used to and go more or less on autopilot. Changing them in little steps as you say is a very good way to develop healthy or wanted habits. It takes time but it works.

It’s just like learning to drive a car, at first it seems difficult but with practice everything goes smooth. We just have to stick to it until it becomes second nature.

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Jonathan July 14, 2013 at 11:13 am

Very true Andrea. I’ve also realized that the more I change my habits the more I realize that everything is change and I’ll always desire for things to be different to some degree. This helps me relax and focus on where I want to go without obsessing about it.

Marie butler July 13, 2013 at 3:35 am

I know I need to do this. I need to get over the fact that I was wronged. I need to move on and beyond all that. It’s hard when the people you know are still around.

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Jonathan July 14, 2013 at 11:11 am

Everything can change, and will change. The question is whether you’ll direct it where you most want it to go. You can start now. :)

Big Apple Dreaming July 13, 2013 at 3:52 pm

Everything is your hands ;) I think if you really want something you can get it! But you need to work hard and be passionated about what are you doing ;)

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Katie July 14, 2013 at 3:39 pm

Great post! I love the positive thinking combined with giving yourself some big shoes to fill! However from personal experience it can be tricky to break out of the bad habit of negative self talk. But as long as we keep striving, right? Enjoy the process, independent of the outcome! Cheers!

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Sherry Marshall July 15, 2013 at 5:30 am

Hi. Yes, I agree. If we keep doing/thinking the same thing, we get the same result, so nothing changes. Using positive affirmations and positive thinking, in a consistent way, can, for some people, change their mind and therefore change their beliefs about themselves and their habitual patterns. Meditation also works in this way.
At the same time, if we could all do it, we would! As a Process Psychologist and long time meditator and author of a book on Tibetan Buddhism, my experience with thousands of people is that psychological and mental and emotional patterns of mind are far more complex. People who are truly committed to changing their depression, anxiety, trauma etc. can still suffer greatly over long periods of time and cannot just simply change how they think or feel.

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Marc Vaillancourt July 15, 2013 at 8:38 am

Great post Jonathan! Your insights always show up at the right time for me! Thanks for all you do.

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Jonathan July 15, 2013 at 9:08 am

Glad to be of service Marc.

Elena Novak July 16, 2013 at 7:46 am

I’ve always had a problem with the conflicting notions of “who we are” as an ingrained self and “who we can be” as the capacity to change that ingrained self. So is there a “you,” or is “you” whoever you want to be? Now I think my problem was trying to write “I’m the type of person that…” statements that revolved too much around who I thought others wanted me to be. Instead of trying to make myself fit that image, even if I could, the fact is I don’t want to. I’ve chosen that for myself. A change in who you are should come because it fits your own ideas of who a person should be, not others’.

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Nikole Gipps July 17, 2013 at 9:09 pm

At some point, don’t you hit the very nature of yourself though? Like trying to tell yourself that you’re a morning person when you’re a night owl, or that you’re an organized person when your brain just can’t deal with that kind of structure.

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Barbara July 18, 2013 at 6:33 am

I am the type of person who can focus on a goal and make it happen.

Great posts and I have loved all the comments, Thank you.

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Nir Eyal July 18, 2013 at 8:57 am

Interesting essay but where’s the science to back this up? I love the concept and it seems directionally correct but can you point to any studies that show this really works?
Thank you!

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Napoleon Nalcot July 19, 2013 at 8:46 pm

Very well written post for this particular topic. From the title to the last word of the last paragraph is all packed with what I need to translate into action myself. Thank you for this!

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Kelly @Try New Things August 13, 2013 at 10:18 pm

I love this technique. When I first read it, I wasn`t sure and then…amazing.

I am the type of person who gets started right away when I get up.

And my brain said `No you are not`.

But I kept saying it and it works!

And for the last 6 mornings I AM the type of person who gets started right away when I get up.And I accomplish so much.

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Jonathan August 14, 2013 at 8:33 am

Booyah.

Mariah September 30, 2013 at 8:07 pm

My mind was blown when I read “all beliefs are simply repetitive thoughts” it is so simple, so genius! When I was finished reading I felt a ease of relief wash over. I am going to start using this technique right away.

“I am outgoing and happy. I bring joy and ease to everyone around me.”

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Maggie Reyes October 15, 2013 at 8:57 pm

I am the type of person that has whatever I need whenever I need it.

I am the type of person that loves her life and you can tell.

I am the type of person who succeeds.

I am the type of person who has a great marriage and an awesome career.

I LOVE THIS GAME!

By the way, I never heard of you and two totally un-connected people mentioned you within the same hour on the same day. Followed the obvious SIGNS here. Thanks for this!

I am the type of person who loves awesome when I see it!

XO

Maggie

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Tom Southern December 3, 2013 at 12:17 pm

“I’m the type of person who is healthy, wealthy, happy and successful.”

Can I have two? :)

“I’m the type of person who writes my novel every day no matter what, no matter how many or few words.”

This is a great pattern-interrupter, Jonathan. Simplicity is always the most powerful tool when it comes to conquering great foes.

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Walid March 12, 2014 at 9:05 am

I’m the type of person who is focused and work hard.

Let’s work !

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Tiffany October 1, 2014 at 11:42 am

What I desire is to be good to my boyfriend. I’m becoming the type of person that will treat him with respect and listen to him sincerely. I’m the type of person that will love and nourish my boyfriend.

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