It could easily be said that my entire life’s purpose is to live in complete congruence.
I would say that that that is your life purpose as well — and perhaps everyone’s — if we take the idea far enough.
So first, let’s talk about what this even means. Because if you’re like me, the word “congruent” probably reminds you of 6th grade geometry and not much else. It actually has another meaning, though, and that is alignment.
When you’re living in complete congruence, complete alignment, no part of you is conflicting with any other part of you. There is no disagreement. No disturbance. No fakeness.
For a long time, I lived my life highly compartmentalized. I was one person when I was with my friends, a different person at work, and yet another person with family or my wife. It’s this kind of fragmentation that chokes your spirit.
Let me be straight: we are all multi-faceted beings. We’re not the same person in every situation all the time. We’re not binary, single-function amoebas. We manifest and express ourselves differently according to what is appropriate to the events surrounding us.
For a long time, I lived my life highly compartmentalized.
That is natural. That is perfectly fine.
What is not natural, and what is not fine, is changing who you are; manipulating yourself in order to fit some kind of mold of what is or isn’t appropriate.
That’s the way I used to live. Slow suffocation.
The really interesting thing is, this is the way people are expected to live; compartmentalizing each part of their life where relation from one area of their life to another is virtually unrecognizable. For a long time, I didn’t realize that this was what I was doing. I could be five different people in one given day, and none of them was me. They all contained fragments of me, hidden beneath my attempts to be something I was not, in order to gain the acceptance of others.
I was a slightly different (and more fake) person around family then I was with friends. I was a different person with my friends than I was with my wife. I was a different person alone, than I was with any of those other people. But most of all, where I felt most suffocated was the dichotomy between who I was everywhere else and the person I was at work.
No resemblance. Total deception.
But as I said earlier, this type of deceitfulness is totally accepted in our society. No, not just accepted. It’s expected.
It took me a while to realize that even though a lot of people choose to live this way, I didn’t have to.
Once I realized that I didn’t have to make that choice, I started to open up the airwaves and release the restriction I had placed on myself.
Then I asked one life-changing question:
What would it be like to live in complete congruence? What would it feel like to have total alignment of purpose, with no separation, no partitions, and no dissonance?
(Okay, so that’s two questions. Sue me.)
That’s when I realized that my ultimate goal in life is to live from that place of total, authentic action. Using no limits as a way of limitation.
I want there to be no discernible difference between when I am working and when I am playing. No division between my purpose and my life path.
When everything is completely integrated, when your heart, mind, and body are acting as one vehicle, your life starts to become something very beautiful. Your expression is natural, unique, and right. Your creativity flows. Your heart is opened.
And you no longer seek anything outside of yourself. You are internally validated.
Life becomes effortless when you are not trying to become anything. Your existence becomes one of expressing and expanding the awesomeness of what already is.
Your desires, your dreams, your purpose, and your contribution to the world becomes one and the same. This is what it means to live with the extinction of boundaries. This is what it means to be completely and radically congruent.
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