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Is stress killing your focus & creativity? Try this.

Do you ever feel like stress and anxiety are overtaking your life? Peace, focus and creativity are slipping away and it feels like you’re your days are just about ticking off the never-ending to-do list?    

Welcome to the club.

I’m currently a woman on a mission, and that mission is to bring back more focus, creativity and calm into my life. 

Here are some of the things I’ve tried so far: 

  • Lying on the bed and doing nothing else but listening to the music (I don’t think I’ve done that since I was a teenager);
  • Leaving my phone at home, going to the park, sitting on the grass and watching people (amazing how many ideas I can come up with!);
  • Eating the whole tub of salted caramel Häagen-Dazs instead of dinner just because I really felt like it; 
  • Deleting the junk data from my laptop; The satisfaction of looking at the uncluttered desktop – priceless;
  • Watching the whole second season of Big Little Lies in one day and not feeling bad about it (also confirming that we don’t deserve the genius that is Meryl Streep);
  • Staying away from my phone as much as possible – that’s the hardest but also the most rewarding thing I’ve tried in order to regain my focus; 
  • Stopped fooling myself that I’m good at multitasking.
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One question you should to ask yourself to take back control over your money
When Cedric and I decided to leave London, we came across the big question – what the hell are we going to do with all our stuff? Furniture was easy; it stayed in the flat. The problems began when we started to empty those cupboards and drawers. It was like opening Pandora box.

The piles and piles of stuff we forgot we even had. Looking at dozens of bags filled with things we decided to give away, sell or throw away was overwhelming.

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The battle of passion vs work
“Do what you love, and you’ll never have to work a day in your life”

Of all inspirational quotes you can find all over the internet this is one I dislike the most.

First of all, it assumes that work itself is a bad thing, something you should try to escape from. It’s a concept I disagree with but I am not going to delve on that here; we have an excellent post on our blog that talks more about why this is the wrong way to think about work.

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Do What Feels Bad
In 2002 Diet Coke launched their new marketing slogan:

“Do what feels good.”

It was just another ploy in a slew of ad campaigns designed to hijack the human desire to seek pleasure. We’re wired after all to move toward pleasure, and away from pain.

So it’s no surprise that sales skyrocketed.

Whether it’s messages to inhale soft drinks or to buy the latest smartphone, we’re habituated to elevate feeling good over everything else.

And it’s no wonder, because pain/pleasure impulse is a natural evolutionary trait that has served us well as humans for millions of years.

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How I’m Recovering From Perfectionism
Perfectionism is a sneaky mental illness. I know because I’m a recovering perfectionism addict.

On the surface, the voice of perfection makes you think that it’s only trying to help.

After all it only wants to help you be all that you can be, right? Not only that, but it’s supposedly protecting you from the devastating effects of failure. It’s there to shield you, so you don’t let yourself and others down.

Cloaked in its desire to help you be the best, to avoid failure, to reach your potential, the devious voice of perfectionism can lure you into thinking it’s doing you a service.

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