What Finally Caused Me to Become a Man

[Note: This is a follow up to this post in which we received over 100 comments. Thank you so much for sharing your enthusiasm, openness and energy. It truly humbles and means the world to me. Thank you.]

Okay, so I’m sorry about leaving you hanging like that in the last post.

I needed to give some space to the message of the bigger vision we’re stepping into, and not muddle it by talking about this specific project I’m thinking about undertaking.

I got a lot of pretty heated responses, like this one from Ashlyn:

This is a mean, mean post. It’s 5:30 and I’m on the train to work reading this and getting so pumped up, “what’s his great idea?! I wanna know what the hl it is!!!” And then, BAM!!! Cliffhanger.

I’m sorry if you felt a bit abandoned there for a second!

In case you’re just joining us, in the last post I talked about stepping into a bigger mission and vision for Paid to Exist than I ever dreamed of. It involves committing ourselves to completely changing the definition and paradigm of work from toiling to joy. From doing something to live, to an act of our deepest service.

And I’m not just talking about a closed-circuit community of non-conformists and one in a million renegades.

I’m talking about transforming the fabric of the world.

Pretty insane. I think, at least.

And in order to do that… I’m considering creating something that our community here has been demanding and pleading of me to create for some time now.

It’s a toolkit, a guide, and a transformational project that currently does not exist.

And the implications of it not existing has become too much.

There’s a void that is not being filled keeping far too many people trapped on a treadmill of meaningless, soul-crushing work. This specific guide not existing is causing more pain, and more suffering than I can put into words, and I believe that it’s time for it to stop.

It’s causing people to…

  • Stay stuck for years and years doing routinized, mechanized and spirit-starving work
  • Feel like they need to sacrifice their personal joy in order to feed their families
  • Remain feeling like powerless victims, pawns and servants, rather than the powerful beings they truly are

The reality is that too many people are afraid to give people concrete advice and practical application on how to quit your job. It’s a risky business. And people would rather fixate on how to build an income, without talking about the messy, internal transformations that need to take place at a personal level.

So, before I tell you about what this is, I want to give you some back story if you haven’t been on this journey with me since it all started.

Years ago I quit my job to be a writer and coach helping people live on their own terms. Back then, my main offering was a product called Reclaim Your Dreams. I also did life coaching for a limited number of clients each month.

Doing this kind of work allowed me to quit my job and work for myself fulltime.

It’s been a wild ride since then. I firmly believe that this journey to self-government and providing for myself has been one of the most important transformations I’ve ever made.

Making that transition was like a rite of passage for me, and it pushed me into fully becoming a man.

There’s something about being responsible for going out and hustling every single month to make sure your family eats that changes you in a deep way. While I didn’t know working for myself would have such a profound impact on me at the time, I just knew that I desperately needed to do something different.

I feared that if I didn’t finally work on my own terms, I would never reclaim ownership of my time, and I would wake up one day at 75 feeling that I had never truly lived.

Over these past years you have asked, pleaded and urged me to share with you exactly how I did it, exactly how I made the transition to quit my job and work for myself.

And to a certain degree, I’ve done that in our flagship program, Trailblazer.

But there’s a lot that isn’t covered there, like:

  • How to negotiate a work-from-home arrangement with your boss, or part-time work in order to work more on your side business.
  • How to have tough conversations with your spouse to ensure that you don’t end up divorced while trying to quit your job to work for yourself.
  • How to create a rock solid savings plan to create a freedom fund that will ease your mind when you quit.
  • How to live minimalist-like to make quitting much more accessible (we went from spending about $3,000 a month to about $1,800 a month before I quit my job).
  • How to master the art of hustling so you can meet your income goals each month and create a “job replacement income.”
  • How to maximize the small amount of time each week you have to work on your business so you’re only doing the highest leverage stuff and gives you the most possible return on your investment.
  • The list goes on and on…

None of these things seem to be covered in the many programs out there in the Do What You Love space.

But the truth stands: They are incredibly important and absolutely VITAL to making this transition. Ignore them and you risk being forever trapped on a treadmill of work that doesn’t matter, an infant staying endlessly dependent to the irresistible corporate tit.

Of course money is important.

You absolutely must create an income to replace your job if you want to make a sustainable transition to working on your own terms.

However, creating that income in the first place is a result of all of the things listed above.

Along the way, I’ve shared bits and pieces of this story and small how-to’s with segmented pieces about how I’ve done it in isolated instances. But until now I’ve never shared or created a comprehensive guide on how to make quitting your job inevitable. A kind of “Master Plan” for making the Grand Escape to freedom.

Over and over though, I see people making the same mistakes, mistakes that I made and corrected through years of trial and error.

And now, I’m thinking about finally doing what you’ve demanded of me and creating a comprehensive product around this topic.

This product doesn’t have a name yet. This product hasn’t even been created yet.

And this product may never, ever exist unless… you absolutely want it.

I don’t create anything you and the rest of this community don’t absolutely desire.

So I want to know… is this something you’d be interested in?

Would something like this be useful to you?

Should I do this?

Leave a comment below and make your voice heard.

Thank you for all of your support and encouragement. Your words of support mean the world to me. As always, I could not do this without you.


Hand on my heart.
PS: Please let me know what you think, and please be honest. I’ll do my absolute best to respond to each and every comment.

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Jennifer Blikman

I’m all about this. I think this would be really useful to me, especially if it focused on the emotional and financial part of things.


Check, check. Thanks Jennifer.


I would love to hear more Johnathan!

My life circumstances have brought be back to the importance of laying the foundation in everything I do. I was an at home mum and now transitioning to a single parent.

I’d love to hear more on How to master the art of hustling to meet income goals each month & How to maximize the ROI when working ON our businesses.


Awesome, thank you for your feedback Tracy.


Definitely something I’d be interested in. I think it would make your blog even more useful and inspiring than it already is.


I’m ready to move on from my current job. I’m ready to begin a new journey in which I don’t have to depend on corporate america for my income. What you are offering here would be a great help to make that transition. I can see the need for this and its usefulness to many.


On to the next awesome mountain, Jonathan! If there’s anyone who has the gift to do this….it is You!


Jonathan this sounds like a fantastic program/course/product. I can’t say that I would buy it personally, because I have already been through that transition, but I think there’s a huge need for this sort of practical know-how. I have seen most of this info on the interwebs, but never before in one place with a specific mission. For example, not many people are talking about having those difficult conversations with your spouse about how one’s entrepreneurial ambitions impact the family (huge topic!). Maximizing one’s time is also crucial. Love them all. Go for it!

Debra Gould
Jonathan, I wouldn’t personally buy that product because I’ve already done all the things you’re talking about. That said, if you’re interested in sharing examples of people who have walked that path, I’d be happy to discuss it with you. In a nutshell, I gave up a 6-figure corporate job to start my first business at the start of the last great recession, 1989. Since that time I’ve reinvented myself many times starting new businesses as my interests have evolved. Along the way, I raised a child entirely on my own, lived in 4 different cities and now make my… Read more »
Ok, I’ll be honest. I probably would not buy this product, but it should still be made. I feel like I have the knowledge already, just need to pull the trigger. I think an interactive community of people who have already made the transition, or are in the process,would be be beneficial in helping me make the big move. If this is part of your plan, then I may reconsider. My resistance comes from the same thing that many others are dealing with, namely…we make a buttload more money now than we would for a while to come if we… Read more »

Thanks for your honest feedback Mike. Based on some of the responses we’ve gotten we’ve decided to “up the ante” so to speak and feature a lot of very in-depth case studies from people that have made the leap, or are in progress and break down exactly what they’ve done. I think it’s going to add a lot of value to the end product.


You have my attention now! This has the makings of a revolutionary course….and thanks for listening!

Hi Jonathan, I think this is a very useful product and will help a lot of people, myself included. Before finding your Paid to Exist (Trailblazer) I read a couple of bestseller books in this area. All seemed to show you how to build the business whether it is what you love to do or a source of passive income. Your program appealed to me because it puts a structure around the process. Working in a very demanding job and having other adult responsibilities, I don’t think I’d have started down this path without the structure. On the other hand,… Read more »

Jonathan we definitely need to change the culture of entrepreneurship. It has to be seen as the first option instead of the dreaded choice. I believe too that we need to get more of the larger corporations to support small businesses. You need to talk more about partnerships and joint ventures and about helping people period. Some of us have little or no mailing lists, very little money but huge ideas. Those who can should help without expecting anything in return. Too often now it is about WIIFM – (What’s in it for me). Let’s create a sharing community.


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