My wife and I were sitting at the dinner table last night. We were eating leftovers of some amazing vegetable curry Ev’Yan had made the day before. And as we usually do, we were talking about what we were proud of that day.
Ev’Yan exclaimed excitedly, “I’m proud that despite not sleeping very well and not really feeling it, I showed up and wrote anyway. I didn’t feel like it, but I did it and didn’t overthink it.”
We fist bumped (that’s our thing).
Then I was reminded of something I just couldn’t forget.
I vented my frustration to her, “I think so often in my life I’ve tried to wait for the passion to show up in my work. Or I’ve tried to find the perfect intersection of strengths, interests, and service that will once-and-for-all give me an endless source of passion and excitement with my work.
But rarely does it work out that way.”
As I expressed my struggle to her a lightbulb suddenly went off in my head.
“I think it’s the difference between wanting to just passively receive passion from your work, and actively giving passion to it. You know, showing up and saying ‘today, I’m going to find my excitement for this and choose to give my passion to this.’
I think that feels a lot different than waiting for the passion to come, or trying to whittle your list down to only things you’re super passionate about.
Plus, it puts you back in control. You can always choose to be passionate. You can choose to give even if you’re not immediately feeling the pull.”
We nodded our heads and talked for a few more minutes about the other things we’re proud of — an end of day ritual we’ve come to appreciate and look forward to.
After we put the dishes away and cleared the table we made a commitment to each other to show up and give our passion to our work, not just wait to find the perfect project or inspiration.
Then the resistance creeps in…
And I’ll admit right now, a day later sitting at my laptop, it’s definitely harder to follow through on. It’s easy to sit around and wait for the spark. That way you can always blame something else without taking ownership.
But being passionate, choosing to show as your best self and give everything you have — and to do that day after day is a lifelong practice.
That’s what I’m reminding myself of right now as I feel the resistance creep in.
Just that little nudge, breathing, accepting that it’s not easy, and it already feel better.
You know, sometimes it’s just a shift in perspective that changes everything for you.
So, you know I have to ask:
What are you choosing today? Will you give your passion, and be passionate, or will you wait to receive it? (click to tweet that)