Staying within the social norm and fitting in, to most is more valuable than authenticity. Don’t attract attention to yourself, be liked by others and do what your told seems to be the mainstream mantra. Life is not a uniform organism. The truth is, we will never find personal freedom by trying to please others and conforming our life to a template. If we are all truly different, why do we try to force the unique shapes of our personalities, skills, beliefs and ideas into the square peg of social acceptance?
Paid to Exist
How much progress has thinking about something gotten you?
You might think that thinking about, gathering knowledge and plotting your route to success is important. But it doesn’t amount to much.
There are plenty of systems you can implement to help you become more productive. You can hack moleskins, read articles on “33 tips to boost your productivity,” and create mind-blowing mind-maps.
Some habits will help you live a better life. They’ll help you improve what’s already working or help you fix what’s not working very well.
But what about habits that completely change the game entirely? What are the questions that uproot your beliefs, shake them from its roots and move you into a bigger pot?
These are seven habits that won’t just improve your game, or help you “level up.” They’ll help you play a different game, one that you completely design yourself.
In 2002 Diet Coke launched their new marketing slogan:
“Do what feels good.”
It was just another ploy in a slew of ad campaigns designed to hijack the human desire to seek pleasure. We’re wired after all to move toward pleasure, and away from pain.
So it’s no surprise that sales skyrocketed.
Whether it’s messages to inhale soft drinks or to buy the latest smartphone, we’re habituated to elevate feeling good over everything else.
And it’s no wonder, because pain/pleasure impulse is a natural evolutionary trait that has served us well as humans for millions of years.
Perfectionism is a sneaky mental illness. I know because I’m a recovering perfectionism addict.
On the surface, the voice of perfection makes you think that it’s only trying to help.
After all it only wants to help you be all that you can be, right? Not only that, but it’s supposedly protecting you from the devastating effects of failure. It’s there to shield you, so you don’t let yourself and others down.
Cloaked in its desire to help you be the best, to avoid failure, to reach your potential, the devious voice of perfectionism can lure you into thinking it’s doing you a service.