March 2010

For most of us, email is our bipolar friend. Sometimes we love it and other times it’s our worst enemy.

It’s there for us when we’re bored. It’s there when we’re trying to avoid work that makes us uncomfortable. It provides a delightful kind of anticipation every time we open it. Maybe there’s something new and important there. Maybe something exciting and wonderful.

But other times it creates a whole lot of overwhelm and frustration.

It distracts us. It keeps us from taking meaningful action on things that really matter.… Click to read more

Nothing is stagnant and neither is Illuminated Mind. Some big shifts and growth is happening around here, and I want to update you all on what’s in store.

Design update

In case you haven’t noticed (you read this blog solely in a feed reader) Illuminated Mind has received a long overdue face lift. As usual, due to my OCD tendencies, I designed it myself. Design is one of my biggest passions, even though it’s something I no longer have an interest in pursuing as a career.… Click to read more

Being a serious person has its benefits.

  • You fit in.
  • The rest of your life is fairly predictable; not many surprises.
  • No one asks questions.
  • You’re considered “normal.”
  • You wake up with a pretty good idea of what your day will consist of.
  • Your life is steady; it feels safe.

I used to accept this way of living because whenever I told someone my dreams, the common response was “that’s not a serious way to live.” But that’s not completely true.… Click to read more

The views and opinions of others are a petty tyrant when compared to your opinion of yourself. What you think of yourself is more valuable than any external validation or outward symbol of authority.

Self-validation and internal congruence is where the real battle takes place. Winning over your own heart and mind — not those of others — is what truly makes the difference between an unfulfilled or a purposeful, full life.

But so often we do the exact opposite of what we truly want.… Click to read more

Much of the time when we set out to do something, we go in with a mindset of trying. We attempt to do it. We “test it out” to see if we can handle it.

While this approach is certainly useful in many contexts, at some point it’s more beneficial to discard it.

At some point, we must decide to stop trying and deliberately choose not to fail; simply choose to succeed.

This often happens inadvertently when your back is up against a wall.… Click to read more